Posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on January 19, 2007, at 21:11:19
In reply to My thoughts exactly, Honore (nm) » Honore, posted by 10derHeart on January 18, 2007, at 22:15:18
okay, I didn't read the entire thread in full detail. my attentions wavers.
Here's what I think about this. Someone is communicating with me in a way that hurts me. I ask them not to communicate with me. Do Not Post/Do Not Babblemail etc. I make it known that I am ignoring them in Babble-chat, should the situation arise that we are both chatting at the same time.
That person is hurt that I ask them not to communicate with me. They don't understand it, and so they try to find more information (including initiating communication with me).
Whose hurt is more important? Who does Dr. Bob choose to protect?
Me? or that person?
strictly hypothetical. no names. no incidents. just this scenario.
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next question:I have requested that someone does not communicate to me (DNP, DNbabblemail, DNchat.)
Now that person writes a post about me. Uses my name, or leaves it open for easy inference. That person writes that my actions have hurt him. That person writes that my actions have hurt him so badly that he is feeling like he wants to hurt himself. That person writes that when I don't communicate with him, he wants to die. That person writes that when I don't communicate with him, he feels misunderstood, and feels like slitting his wrists.
Who is protected? Me, or Him? and WHY?
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The situation escalates.
I write that I feel that he has put me in a situation that makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. I write that he has threatened suicide unless I respond to him in some way. I write that I am triggered by suicidal people, especially suicidal people who make me feel responsible for their pain.
He writes that he cannot imagine living in a world in which I will not communicate with him. He writes that he must be able to speak with me to understand how he has hurt me. He writes that if he cannot speak with me and find out how to feel better, that he will continue to feel suicidal.
Yet, I will not speak to him. I speak about him in vague terms.
He speaks about me in less than vague terms.
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Who will get protection?
Is it an issue of favoritism? Who hurts more gets more protection?
-Ll
poster:Llurpsie_Noodle
thread:723332
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