Posted by Dinah on October 5, 2004, at 22:09:10
In reply to Hi Dinah, posted by Kali Munro on October 5, 2004, at 20:56:35
> Wow, Dinah, your post about your relationship with your therapist was moving, intense, interesting, and compelling -- it clearly describes a relationship that is working for you on a deep level, even if not always on the surface level.
I really appreciate your saying that. And it also describes my relationship with Babble, I have always thought. Babble has been so good for me in so many ways and helped me grow as a "person in relation with others". I suppose the fact that I can say that answers, for me anyway, whether it's worth it. Or it should.
> I think you do what you likely do already to buffer yourself from the pain -- you take breaks from the group/board, you express what is important to you and let go of the rest, you gravitate to the subjects/people/threads that feel right and good to you, you remind yourself that relationships are not always easy but when they feel right and good it's worth it, you let go of expectations, you focus on what you get from the experience when you can, you see and accept the board/group/person as they are and not as you want them to be which doesn't mean you don't express yourself, disagree, challenge, seek answers, etc.
I try, anyway. :) Maybe what makes it harder to relate to a group than a person is that the group isn't static. With a person you hopefully eventually reach "comfy old shoe" status in your relationship. While maintaining relationship with the board can be exhausting.
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> I suspect you already do these things and can get overwhelmed and exhausted by it all; understandably. I recommend doing things that replenish you physically and emotionally (notice I leave out mentally :)-- physical activity, rest, reading, slow walks, nature, meditation, yoga, etc. -- so you have something that comforts you when people/boards are "making you crazy"!I could have sworn that the psychologist who did my Rorschach test wasn't named Kali Munro, but she said exactly the same thing! Perhaps Babble is a sort of Rorschach test in itself. ;)
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> I think you have a lot of integrity, Dinah. You seek connection while being true to yourself. It can be a tough road to walk but one well worth it.Thank you very much. I'm honored.
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> Take care,
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> Kali
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And you as well.
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