Posted by IsoM on December 9, 2002, at 19:38:23
In reply to Re: Social phobic/nerd/ shy person profile » IsoM, posted by Dinah on December 9, 2002, at 18:33:38
Dianh, I included shy in my subject line as I was trying to convey the idea that there's not just one label identifying a person who's bullied.
I agree that shyness isn't always part of it. I had a friend in high school who wasn't shy at all. She was a good friend & a wonderful person but she had no other close friend. She "exuded" a certain oddness that others commented on. It didn't bother me & I enjoyed her company a lot.
I hope you're not offended but while I know you don't look like her, when I picture you, I imagine you look like her. When we both went to university, I ended up giving her some social tips. I felt horrible pointing out certain things to her (like I was judging her or something), but I hated that other people thought she was weird. I didn't want her to be harshly judged the rest of her life. Happily, she wasn't insulted at all & put them to use. She ended up marrying a good looking, very intelligent guy - not that I'm saying I was responsible, but her social life did improve.
It's not really how a person may feel, but how they present themselves to others.
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