Posted by Larry Hoover on December 9, 2002, at 10:20:52
In reply to Social phobics are sitting ducks for sociopaths!!! » fuzzymind, posted by bluedog on December 8, 2002, at 10:23:03
> Hi Fuzzymind
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> I have always been bullied no matter where I go. Suffering from social anxiety is like wearing a HUGE flashing neon sign that says "bully me" Sociopaths ( your so called "friend" definitely sounds like a sociopath to me) seem to have an inbuilt radar that picks up on the weakness that social phobics have in relation to their fear and inability to stand up for themselves especially in public.
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> As for the rest of society, they don't read the signs quite as clearly but they do seem to sense something "odd" or "not quite right" about social anxiety sufferers and this leads to isolation and terrible amounts of anguish, suffering, loneliness and depression for those with social anxiety.I've been thinking a lot about this, and though I don't have social anxiety/phobia (most of the time), I see myself as having once been subject to what I called "pathological shyness". Now, I see it as an outcome of childhood abuse, a part of my experience with PTSD. In any case, I know very well that there are people who can read the signs. It's like we're colour-coded, and they know what colour they're looking for.
I don't know if it's the same for others, but what I've come to suspect is that these predators sense just how much is going on inside of us. They know that behind those eyes lies a whirlwind of activity, a massive and overwhelming flow of thought and emotion. We think we're "wearing a mask", but our eyes give us away.
Every one of these predators is an eye-contact junkie.
And that's all they need, a high level of distraction. It raises doubt, delays reactions, permits outside influences to come into play, and allows them to get behind the eyes, to play in our heads.
poster:Larry Hoover
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