Posted by LD on May 30, 2000, at 10:16:37
In reply to Mother relationship/therapy, posted by JennyR on May 28, 2000, at 23:56:25
Jenny, I feel I can really relate to your post. Since I've started therapy, I've even had MORE anger towards my mother (which is hard to believe it could be more) for the neglect and emotional abuse she inflicted on me and my brother. At the moment I'm choosing to not talk to her while I try and deal with these things. Also knowing that she is the way she is and is not going to change helps me to know that I'm a better person and do not desearve her belittling and constant criticisms. I don't really have an answer for you, but I wanted to let you know that I relate and also feel so much anger I sometimes think I can't handle it. I also know the guilt you are talking about in relation to her being old etc. My mother is not that old yet, but I dread the day I will be held responsible for her well being and what will I do when that comes. I do not want to be responsible for her after the years of pain she has inflicted on me. I am just started out with a great therapist, so we'll see how things progress. But he has told me it is fine to feel these things, fine to not talk to her, fine if I want to tell her off (not that it will help anything) but I will be dealing with this in therapy for a very long time. But my mother also has alot of problems, and she has chosen not to deal with them and takes her anger out on me and my brother. I know I am definitely rambling, its hard to write coherently on this topic without writing a book. Just wanted to say I could relate. Good luck.
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