Posted by JennyR on June 4, 2000, at 16:38:44
In reply to Re: Mother relationship/therapy, posted by Danny on June 3, 2000, at 2:33:29
Thank you all very much. What each one of you wrote was helpful.
I agree that I have a right to decide on what terms I'll accept with my mother, as I'm not a kid anymore. She doesn't tower over me anymore, and the fact is, I actually have the power. I will put whatever distance I need to for my own sanity. This will make her very angry, and she will assume this is some sort of punishment to her rather than self-preservation. But I do need to take care of myself. She will complain to anyone who will listen, I'm sure, that I'm a bad daughter by not calling/seeing her as much as she'd like, but I can't make that my problem. I had a very bad blow-up with her a week ago which prompted my post, and I am still reeling from her viciousness, which was truly undeserved. I think if you get burned a bunch of times and still keep sticking your hand in the fire, you can't blame the fire.
You are a great bunch of people. Thank you for your support. I am so used to my feelings and my perspective not mattering.
poster:JennyR
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