Posted by Carol on November 1, 1999, at 19:27:23
In reply to Re: Home today--definitely an "E" post, not a "T", posted by Noa on November 1, 1999, at 18:52:13
>>I am not sure I believe in God, but I did have a sort of spiritual crisis when this "wrong" occurred. It made me have severe doubts about the trust I had always felt that people are basically good and will do the right thing in most circumstances.< <
First, you don't have to believe that "people" are "good" in order to believe in God. Quite the opposite, you must believe in God in order to *get over* the fact that many, many, people are NOT good! I am a cynic from way back, but that is one thing that has never caused me to lose faith in God. The whole point of being alive is that we all are absolutely *free* to behave in exactly the way we want to behave. To some people this means taking the liberty of being absolute shits(sorry, no other word would do!)! Our real *power* comes from choosing how we are going to respond when 'bad' people pull their stuff on us. This *power* is our only real gift from God. Other then that, we just have to wing it, and try to live the best way we can and be the best person our circumstances will allow us to be. Whew!
Second, are you seeing a therapist? There is such a thing as professional confidentiality, so you could tell everything and maybe get some good feedback to help you deal with A.What was done to you, and B. How you need to respond, in order to gain peace of mind. Most states do have some sort of Counseling service that works on a sliding scale, to find a fee you can afford, if that is a problem. Even if you don't think you need "therapy", an impartial view of the entire situation could be very helpful. Okay, done!
Just some (okay, alot!)thoughts. Carol
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