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Posted by TexasChic on June 25, 2006, at 7:31:23
I said in an earlier post I was going to block myself for 10 weeks, but I realize now that was a bit excessive. I am going to take a break though. Just need to get away for awhile.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on June 25, 2006, at 14:04:05
In reply to Babble break, posted by TexasChic on June 25, 2006, at 7:31:23
T how long please don't go for long.Love Phillipa
Posted by llrrrpp on June 25, 2006, at 17:13:02
In reply to Re: Babble break » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on June 25, 2006, at 14:04:05
Hi Tex,
We'll be here when you're ready to come back. Don't be shy!In the meanwhile, I'll miss hearing about your adventures :(
I hope all is going well for you and that you're getting good support in real life.
((((TexChic))))
your friend,
-ll
Posted by Phillipa on June 25, 2006, at 17:18:05
In reply to Re: Babble break, posted by llrrrpp on June 25, 2006, at 17:13:02
When will you know about the job? Love Phillipa
Posted by Deneb on June 25, 2006, at 17:28:21
In reply to Babble break, posted by TexasChic on June 25, 2006, at 7:31:23
Hope you have a fun break.
Deneb*
Posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 9:30:28
In reply to Re: Babble break » TexasChic, posted by Deneb on June 25, 2006, at 17:28:21
My new therapist and I wrote out a schedule to get my extreme messiness/clutter problem in my apartment under control. She agreed it has to do with my mindset and not wanting to let anyone into my life (no one can come over if its too messy!) I'm already behind too, hence the break. I'm off work the next two weeks so I need to focus on that task and job hunting (if I don't get the job I'm waiting to hear from). I'll let you know if I hear anything though.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 13:25:50
In reply to Thanks, just spending too much time here lately., posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 9:30:28
I just called up the HR lady to see if there was any word, and she asked me to hold for a minute, and then a man picked up whose name I recognized as one pretty high up in management, and he says he's glad that I called, and that he would like to call me back this afternoon with hopefully some good news! That's how he put it, 'hopefully some good news', so I'm trying not to get to excited until I know for sure. Hopefully the thing they have to do before calling me back isn't calling past jobs, because then they might talk to my old boss who was just pure evil. I'm hoping that they just talk to the HR department when they call there. I know its supposed to be illegal to talk bad about an ex-employee, but I could see her doing it. I'm just too scared to really believe it yet! I don't think I will until I'm actually there, working my first day! Keep your fingers crossed and send good vibes and/or pray that this happens for me!!!
I'm a nervous wreck!
-T
Posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 13:33:37
In reply to Oh my God! I think I got the job!!!, posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 13:25:50
I remember it saying something about credit when filling out the application. I have terrible credit. I hope that won't keep me from getting the job. Do they do that?
-T
Posted by Dinah on June 26, 2006, at 16:03:57
In reply to Oh my God! I think I got the job!!!, posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 13:25:50
Posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 16:40:21
In reply to Fingers are crossed. :) (nm) » TexasChic, posted by Dinah on June 26, 2006, at 16:03:57
I've got to run out and do some things, but I wanted to post that I got it. Woohoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
-T
Posted by MidnightBlue on June 26, 2006, at 17:13:39
In reply to Woohoo!!! I got the job!!!, posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 16:40:21
Good for YOU!
> I've got to run out and do some things, but I wanted to post that I got it. Woohoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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> -T
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Posted by llrrrpp on June 26, 2006, at 18:18:54
In reply to Woohoo!!! I got the job!!!, posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 16:40:21
Tex!!! I'm SOOOO proud of you!
fantastic! do you need a new work wardrobe (wink wink) ?? New job is always a nice time for some 'retail therapy'
CONgratuLATiOnS!!!!
-ll
haha bitc*ygrlls!! If you can't say it, I will! This refers to a specific set of women that Tex *USED TO!!* work with, in case you haven't been following Texaschic's adventures. I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea.
Posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 19:06:06
In reply to Re: Woohoo!!! I got the job!!! » TexasChic, posted by llrrrpp on June 26, 2006, at 18:18:54
I've already got a song in my head, for some reason its to the tune of a bit in Eddie Murphy Raw, "I have some ice cream, I have some ice cream,You didn't get none! You didn't get none! Cause you're on wellfare, you can't afford it."
except the words are:
I got the job, I got the job
And you're still stuck here, And you're still stuck here
Cause you're too bitchy, and no one wants you.I'm JUST JOKING universe!
I don't want to tempt fate. I think the cosmos put me through alot of crap to make me humble and appreciate a good job when I see it. Also now I have ALOT of experience on dealing with difficult people.
Like I said, I won't REALLY believe it until I'm there.
-T
Posted by gardenergirl on June 26, 2006, at 21:39:28
In reply to Woohoo!!! I got the job!!!, posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 16:40:21
Posted by Dinah on June 26, 2006, at 21:47:30
In reply to Woohoo!!! I got the job!!!, posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 16:40:21
Posted by B2chica on June 27, 2006, at 11:20:58
In reply to Woohoo!!! I got the job!!!, posted by TexasChic on June 26, 2006, at 16:40:21
Posted by TexasChic on June 27, 2006, at 15:12:37
In reply to thats WONDERFUL TC!!!!!!!! Congrats!!!!! (nm), posted by B2chica on June 27, 2006, at 11:20:58
Your support helped me get here.
Now I really really need to curb my time here and work on my apartment. So I'm going to try again to take a break. Of course if anything exciting happens I'll let yall know.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on June 27, 2006, at 15:54:26
In reply to Thank you everyone!, posted by TexasChic on June 27, 2006, at 15:12:37
Just one last thing. If you haven't already, read Cloudydaze post below named: Need support/help/ideas/whatever. She's a single mother in a bad environment and needs some advice and support. I know its easy to overlook posts sometimes and I just wanted to point this one out.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on June 27, 2006, at 23:53:37
In reply to Okay, I'm really trying to go!, posted by TexasChic on June 27, 2006, at 15:54:26
Okay, I finally got out of my friend what he and cuteboy talked about when they discussed our fight. Cuteboy said, "...the chick drama at (our work) has been that way for years, before (ME), before (my friend), and even before (cuteboy). (Bitchygirl) has been there for ages and will probably die there a bitter old c*nt." My friend couldn't find the emails so he was going on memory, and I don't know if the last part was him or cuteboy (my friend has been pretty angry about bitchygirl's behavior towards me). So now I'm all confused because the reason I was mad at cuteboy was because I thought he didn't believe me and thought I was exaggerating, which doesn't go with what he said to my friend. But that doesn't explain why he didn't say bye to me that day. Ahhhhhhg!!!! (that's me yelling in frustration), Obviously it was a bad idea all around since we can't seem to understand each other. And since I told him how I feel the ball's in his court. Unless of course he thinks I'm crazy because I was so upset about something that apparently wasn't true, which is likely. Well, at least my new job has 5000 people, so I should be able to find a new crush soon don't you think?
If only he weren't so damn cute! :-(
-T
Posted by MidnightBlue on June 28, 2006, at 10:31:41
In reply to !@#$%^, posted by TexasChic on June 27, 2006, at 23:53:37
TC,
Let it GO! You have a whole new world waiting for you! Work on your wardrobe. Fix your hair. Buy some new makeup! Get ready to knock them dead!
MB
Posted by TexasChic on June 28, 2006, at 11:34:22
In reply to Re: !@#$%^ » TexasChic, posted by MidnightBlue on June 28, 2006, at 10:31:41
I know, I know. Its just that I HAD put it behind me, and then I find out what I was mad about might not have even been true. So its just frusterating. But you're right. I've got let it go.
It wouldn't be so hard if I wasn't off work for two weeks with no money to do anything but sit around the house. I'm supposed to be cleaning, but its hard to get motivated. I'm supposed to have it done by next Wed when I go to my T. That's my homework from the last session. So I'll probably end up doing it all in the last couple of days. That's how I do most things. I have started though. I'm just going very slow. Its just too tempting to sit around and read or sleep the day away.
-T
Posted by MidnightBlue on June 28, 2006, at 14:33:18
In reply to Re: !@#$%^ » MidnightBlue, posted by TexasChic on June 28, 2006, at 11:34:22
Augh, but that is the way it USUALLY is. We get mad/upset about something that isn't really true. And there is the lesson, we should all give people the benefit of the doubt and not assume something that might not be....
OKAY here is your assignment. Clean for two hours, go out and exercise (anything you like) for one more. Come home, take a shower and go to the mall for a free makeup redo!
THEN go to Walmart and buy something similiar to the department store brand! You can buy the real thing when you have more money.
DAY 2: Wash all your clothes. Polish your shoes, throw out stuff that doesn't fit or is badly stained. Do minor mending (hems, buttons, etc.) Okay, I realize this might take a couple of days but give it a start!
You are getting ready for work at your DREAM JOB not just cleaning. :-)
MB
> I know, I know. Its just that I HAD put it behind me, and then I find out what I was mad about might not have even been true. So its just frusterating. But you're right. I've got let it go.
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> It wouldn't be so hard if I wasn't off work for two weeks with no money to do anything but sit around the house. I'm supposed to be cleaning, but its hard to get motivated. I'm supposed to have it done by next Wed when I go to my T. That's my homework from the last session. So I'll probably end up doing it all in the last couple of days. That's how I do most things. I have started though. I'm just going very slow. Its just too tempting to sit around and read or sleep the day away.
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> -T
Posted by TexasChic on June 28, 2006, at 18:34:34
In reply to Re: !@#$%^ » TexasChic, posted by MidnightBlue on June 28, 2006, at 14:33:18
Yeah, but there were extenuating circumstances in this instance. To be fair and stop beating myself up, I had pretty adequate reason to believe what I did. Really the confusing part is how he could have said the things he did to me and have it mean something entirely different.
Thanks for the pep talk though! I know I need to do those things. I really want to start new at this job, which is why I'm trying to get things organized. I have a problem with clutter and hoarding though, and its just gotten more out of control lately than ever before. So that's what I'm trying to tackle here. Its an OCD thing apparently.
I've seen some pictures on the internet that actually make me feel pretty good about my mess, but these are situations where its gone on years and years. Mine has evolved over several months. Nothing is gross or anything, but clothes, bags, bills, coffee cups, soft drink cups, water bottles, boxes stuff came in, just things like that are all over the place.
Actually, the kitchen IS kind of gross because there's some dirty dishes (pre-dishwasher rinsed) that have been sitting there forever. I've never had bugs or anything, so its more just appearance gross than anything else. But all that is covered by the trash (empty food containers, juice bottles, vodka bottles, ect), so that just makes it even worse.
I HAVE started and made some leeway (I've carried three bags of trash out so far), I just haven't moved into high gear yet, which I know I can do because I've done it before. I've just gotten so sedentary lately. I know its because of depression and the stress of all the crazy stuff at work. I'm just having a hard time snapping out of it. Plus, once the mess gets so bad, it seems impossible. But I know to start with small tasks and stuff like that. I know what I need to do, I'm just not doing it.
So-o-o-o , that being said, I really need to take the break from here I said I would, and get busy. Its easy to use this place as a way to put things off. Okay, its what, Wednesday? I'm going to make a point to stay away from here and not even look at this site until Friday (that sounds more doable than staying away until I'm done). Unless of course its some major thing, like when I found out I got the job. So if I come on here, tell me to go away! Okay, here it goes. Talk to yall Friday!
-T
Posted by llrrrpp on June 28, 2006, at 19:33:25
In reply to Re: !@#$%^ » MidnightBlue, posted by TexasChic on June 28, 2006, at 18:34:34
hi Texas,
sorry your cute-boy is so confusing. I guess he just wants to get away from the whole thing?Anyways, I have some advice for your cleaning thing.
Here's what I do- you have to set the timer 10 minutes at a time. get a garbage bag and pick up garbage for 10- minutes. Don't do anything else- no scrubbing, no sorting, no reading, just pick up garbage. Then take a 10 minute break. Then 10 minutes scrubbing bathroom porcelain. Tub/shower might take about 10 minutes. then break. Then 10 minutes rounding up the dirty dishes. break. then that's an hour. and you can take an hour break :) you dig it?so divide into chunks. and don't get distracted. you can't clean up everything simultaneously.
And you need some rewards- fresh flowers? just 5 dollars at your grocery store. they will make your place feel spiffy. the room that looks the cleanest gets the flowers. then you can move them into a new room when you start to get that room under control.
sorry you got so behind when you were depressed. my place got to be pretty scary too. I made butter tarts about 3?4? weeks ago. well (confession) The muffin pan is still waiting to be hand washed. oh my. haha. but, I got all the other rooms in my place cleaned up on Sunday. and I've ben very good about not letting my wadded up socks accumulate, or my dishes (which always end up near the computer, for some reason... eat & post & eat & post...)
hang in there, and congrats again on your new job. go hang out in the library, or a museum, or a park, if you get sick of being housebound.
cheerio :)
-ll
Posted by TexasChic on June 30, 2006, at 9:23:08
In reply to Re: !@#$%^ » TexasChic, posted by llrrrpp on June 28, 2006, at 19:33:25
I carried out 4 bags of trash yesterday. I'm embarrassed to even be telling 'yall' about this. I swear, its like a sickness or something.
I'm going to have to speed up if I'm going to make enough progress for my T. She wants me to be DONE by Wed. Well, a deadline does motivate me. I'll just try to get alot done this weekend.
Oh, and lurrpp, I tried your timed thing and that is helpful. Instead of thinking, I have to work until this is finished, I think, 20 minutes, then a break. I just have to make sure I come back from that break.
-T
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