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Posted by bookgurl99 on November 12, 2003, at 9:36:19
Hey all --
I attribute a lot of this to working third shift and not really seeing the sun much (which will change starting the 23rd), but I have been feeling really down lately.
* I don't want to go to work (but I do).
*I don't want to exercise (and I normally do, 3-4 times/week, but not the last 2-3 weeks).
*I don't want to go to class (normally go, but missed some last week -- and normally don't.)
*I don't want to take care of myself re: healthy eating and grooming. (do the grooming, but stuff myself with junk food.)On top of all this, I am dealing with:
*job got taken over by a new company. people are getting fired around me. my partner relies on my benefits for health insurance, so i am fearful of losing this job.
*we are considering a move from Wisconsin to Hawaii.
*my partner needs a good job.
* a good older friend just died, not unexpectedly and with little suffering, but i'm so down.
I don't want to let this slippery slope of depression overtake me. Got any suggestions? (p.s. I'm on Depakote and Lexapro.)
Posted by octopusprime on November 12, 2003, at 11:40:08
In reply to Feeling totally down, posted by bookgurl99 on November 12, 2003, at 9:36:19
financial pressures, job stress, bereavement ...
a recipe for depressionbookgurl i am so sorry for the loss of your friend.
with all that is on your plate it is not surprising that you feel down.
all you can do is take care of yourself and ride the waves out.
if you can afford to take some time off, and process these changes in your life, a short vacation may be in order.
that, or hot bubble baths and a good book (or trashy novel), as per your preference.
now's not the time to make important decisions (eg moving) while you're grieving the loss of your friend. remember her, let the pain fade a little, then move on with your life.
treat yourself well and hopefully you will not slide down that slope.
ps - can your partner cook healthy meals for you?
Posted by ginger C on November 12, 2003, at 11:49:44
In reply to Feeling totally down, posted by bookgurl99 on November 12, 2003, at 9:36:19
Girl you sound like your plate is overflowing no wonder you feel depressed. Did you say you were on meds? If not you might want to see about a good antidepressant. Sometimes when I feel down I go saddle my horse and just ride for a while it really helps to get everything off my mind for a while. Hang in there and just keep telling yourself that these feelings won't last forever.
Posted by Medusa on November 12, 2003, at 12:49:19
In reply to Feeling totally down, posted by bookgurl99 on November 12, 2003, at 9:36:19
books!
I don't have time to post right, now but wanted to say I'm glad to see you - although I'm sorry to read you're in a bad condition.
Is there anything you can do actively to improve your self-marketing -increase your chances of being retained- rather than get bogged down in worry about losing this job?
Posted by Liligoth on November 12, 2003, at 19:19:47
In reply to Feeling totally down, posted by bookgurl99 on November 12, 2003, at 9:36:19
dont be hard on yourself. I wish I was doing only 1/4 as good as you are.
Posted by noa on November 13, 2003, at 4:32:05
In reply to Feeling totally down, posted by bookgurl99 on November 12, 2003, at 9:36:19
Sorry about your friend's death.
Your stressometer is on overdrive right now!
Can you "reframe" it, as they say? Not really depression so much as a reaction to all the STUFF going on in your life right now? Would that help? Consider yourself under enormous stress and needing to just cope and get through it, not expect too much from yourself beyond that.
Posted by bookgurl99 on November 13, 2003, at 4:45:32
In reply to Re: Feeling totally down » bookgurl99, posted by noa on November 13, 2003, at 4:32:05
Hey everyone --
thanks a lot for your caring messages and good suggestions.
i let myself skip chemistry class last night and sleep, even though my partner disapproved of it. i'm feeling better today, because that additional stress made me need more sleep. i also went to the library and picked up some light reading. i was able to laugh at some comics today, so i know i'm feeling much better.
i'm kind of accepting that some of my priorities -- like exercising -- are going to be on the back burner until i go back to first shift in 2 weeks. right now i have to focus on resting, work, and school, so i am trying to give myself those things first.
meanwhile, i am trying to focus on what's right rather than what's wrong, and cut down on coffee, which is really disrupting my sleep schedule.
medusa -- about work -- my job is at large company where the workforce is mainly operators. the work is very simple, and we are judged on largely superficial indicators. i plan to wear professional clothing (many don't), behave professionally, and put some of the big boss' favorite motivational books (zig ziglar stuff) on my cubicle. it's silly, but doing similar things has made me look good to the top folks in the past without earning the dislike of the people i really work next to .
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