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Posted by Shortelise on May 28, 2005, at 14:52:05
In reply to We need a good therapy topic for this weekend, posted by happyflower on May 27, 2005, at 18:53:25
The T I had 35 years ago passed in therapy. I was so embarrassed, and he coulnd't help but laugh. I turned purple.
The only reallly stupid thing my current T has done was the first time I telephoned him, I'd been seeing him for about a year, and was suddenly in a big, anxoius mess. When I called him, he suggested I go shopping. SHOPPING. I know I've mentioned this here before, but really, I was so shocked. He was trying to suggest I do something I enjoy, get out of the house, change the scene, but why he suggested shopping ...??? Birdwatching maybe, but not shopping!
ShortE, who will continue all weekend to wrack her brain for more stupid things he might have said or done, just to convince herself that he is worth leaving.
Posted by 10derHeart on May 28, 2005, at 14:54:26
In reply to Re: Hmm, tell me where it hurts... » 10derHeart, posted by happyflower on May 28, 2005, at 14:43:52
H*ll if I know! Never asked a guy. And my daughter didn't ask her husband, I'm pretty sure. The idea just was the first thing that popped into her head...hey, who raised that child, anyway?!!
I'll have to ask my SIL when they come to visit me next weekend.
But, it sounds possible. I mean, if you've ever coughed that hard, it does sort of involve your whole upper body....
It's just that it was only our 2nd appt., and I didn't know him at all, and I just didn't need to be going through an "embarrassing body-part inventory" in my mind to try to figure it out...
Oh. I just realized it could have been worse. He could have GRABBED the part in question and told me it hurt, instead of just mysteriously mentioning it!!
Now THAT would have been....yikes!!!!
Thanks for starting this. I've really needed good laughs and this is doing it!
Posted by Tamar on May 28, 2005, at 15:45:40
In reply to Hmm, tell me where it hurts..., posted by 10derHeart on May 28, 2005, at 14:27:42
ROFL!
Yeah, the vicinity of the scrotum sounds about right to me.
Ouch!
I can see why he wouldn't want to tell you. It would be hard to put it out of your mind!
Posted by 10derHeart on May 28, 2005, at 17:05:52
In reply to Re: Hmm, tell me where it hurts... » 10derHeart, posted by Tamar on May 28, 2005, at 15:45:40
>I can see why he wouldn't want to tell you. It would be hard to put it out of your mind!
True, but do you see how it was almost worse, alluding to "something", then making me try to puzzle it out and wonder...?
I did say *almost* worse.
Actually telling me at a 2nd session - particularly if it was that private area - would have been....bizarre, to say the least...
Running from the room bizarre, methinks.
Posted by Tamar on May 28, 2005, at 18:55:26
In reply to Re: Hmm, tell me where it hurts..., posted by 10derHeart on May 28, 2005, at 17:05:52
> >I can see why he wouldn't want to tell you. It would be hard to put it out of your mind!
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> True, but do you see how it was almost worse, alluding to "something", then making me try to puzzle it out and wonder...?
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> I did say *almost* worse.Ah yes... the power of the imagination to consider multiple and equally embarrassing/unpleasant alternatives.
> Actually telling me at a 2nd session - particularly if it was that private area - would have been....bizarre, to say the least...
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> Running from the room bizarre, methinks.Definitely! And he'd never be able to run after you...
Posted by Dinah on May 28, 2005, at 19:08:55
In reply to Re: Hmm, tell me where it hurts..., posted by 10derHeart on May 28, 2005, at 17:05:52
I would assume that he was stoned on medications for his cough, and came back to work too soon.
Especially if his disinhibition didn't seem to be characteristic of him.
:)
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:05:13
In reply to Too easy, posted by Dinah on May 27, 2005, at 19:27:19
> Mine has picked his nose, and picked at facial blemishes, too often for me to remember.
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> I don't think he realizes.Blek! LOL Yep that would make 'em human to me!
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:11:37
In reply to Re: Too easy » happyflower, posted by Dinah on May 27, 2005, at 22:21:33
> Yeah, he's done it. Not recently perhaps. But he has picked at things on his skin recently.
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> And yet, when I need reassurance, or wish to reach out for some reason, I put out my hand for a handshake.
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> (shakes head in wonder)
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> Maybe it's like being a mom. It's not as disgusting, when the boogery hands are hands you care about.
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> I really think he doesn't know he does it. I used to think it was a deliberate gesture of disrespect to me. But he mentioned recently that he frequently fidgets with his hands, and I think that's true.
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> On the other hand, he frequently forgets to turn off his cell phone, and I have to wait politely while he does so. And he usually peeks at who has called. :( Now he may not be embarassed by that, but he should be.
Maybe you should get him some Silly Putty, or a "fidget", they're used by Occupational Therapists to keep busy kids more still during class. Keep the hands out of the nose dear! LOL EW!
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:13:23
In reply to My turn!, posted by happyflower on May 27, 2005, at 19:53:29
> Okay, before I knew about feeling erotic attraction happens a lot in therapy, I mentioned to my T that I had this very erotic dream about a really attractive guy who I met a short time ago. But what was bad is that it made me fantasize about him (if you know what I mean).Well, I thought it as disrespectful to my husband and I was struggling with it.
> So I talked to my T about it and told him. When he went to ask what the dreams were about, I said, "Well they were very good", he got soooo red and embarrest! I think he knew they were about him, but I never told him that, but T's are smart right? You should have seen him regroup himself, and he still stubbled over his words. He normally talks very intelligently. After we discussed that fantasies are normal and not disrespectful, etc. Then he moved his chair close to me and looked right at me and said, "happyflower, is there anything else you want to tell me about this?" I very softly said, No! Nothing has been said about it again! lol Thank goodness, I am over it now. But what was funny is I totally caught him off guard, no wonder he calls me challenging! lolAw, damn! I think ya need to revisit this one with him, and see how he reacts! He pulled his chair up close to you? How do you suppose the conversation would have gone if you'd admitted to it? I'd LOVE to know! LOL
Jazzed
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:17:44
In reply to Or, there's the alternate ending... » happyflower, posted by 10derHeart on May 28, 2005, at 0:26:59
> "Then he moved his chair close to me and looked right at me and said, "happyflower, is there anything else you want to tell me about this?"
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> I moved my chair so we were even closer, knees almost touching, and replied very softly, "I thought you'd never ask. I'm madly in love with you. You had me from, 'What can I help you with, Happyflower?' Let's run away together, now, tonight!"
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> Hahahahahahahahaha...please forgive me...I just couldn't help it. Remember, my mind is quite ill, you know.
> And you say you're bad...;-)
> {sitting at keyboard wearing evil grin}You and me both
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:20:31
In reply to Stupid things our Ts have said, posted by messadivoce on May 28, 2005, at 1:59:21
> It was near the end of the year and I was asking questions about communication after termination (for those who know me well, you know that my T was not at all clear what was okay after termination and what was not). I was putting out feelers and trying to get an idea of what kinds of communication would be okay. He was being very vague. I was trying to get a straight answer out of him. I told him that I wished I could have a friendship-type relationship with him.
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> Me: I mean, I wish I could meet you for coffee or something sometime.
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> Him: I don't know if I can accept. But you can offer to meet me for coffee as much as you want. (What? Come again?)
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> Him: You have all my contact information, and I hope you stay in touch, but I don't think we'll be going to any AC/DC concerts anytime soon.
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> ???????????????????????????????????????????
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> I actually rolled my eyes at him. I think he thought I was rolling my eyes at the above-mentioned band, since I'm a classical music snob. Went right over his head. Believe me, I have puzzled over that conversation for a year now I can't figure out what the hell he was trying to say.
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Print this out, send it to him, ask him, and then say, "let's get togehter for coffee, and we can discuss it!"Jazzed
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:23:25
In reply to Re: Or, there's the alternate ending..., posted by happyflower on May 28, 2005, at 7:35:38
> > "Then he moved his chair close to me and looked right at me and said, "happyflower, is there anything else you want to tell me about this?"
> >
> > I moved my chair so we were even closer, knees almost touching, and replied very softly, "I thought you'd never ask. I'm madly in love with you. You had me from, 'What can I help you with, Happyflower?' Let's run away together, now, tonight!"
> >
> > Hahahahahahahahaha...please forgive me...I just couldn't help it. Remember, my mind is quite ill, you know.
> > And you say you're bad...;-)
> > {sitting at keyboard wearing evil grin}
>
> You are too funny10derHeart! I see your horns on the top of your head! Yes this is maybe what I wished at the time would happen. Please don't everyone blast me about ethics and everything. But I am over the erotic transference now, and I look back on how silly I was thinking. He is really a good T and would never cross the line with me. But I do think it is possiable for there to be mutual attraction. But being the good T that he is, got himself under control. lol
> Even though I fantazized what it would be like to be with him, I think I would have totally freaked out if he ever made a move. But I do like your alternate ending! You crack me up!I, for one, think no less of you. It's perfectly natural. Glad it went well.
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:25:48
In reply to Re: Funny/embarrassing things they do, posted by LadyBug on May 28, 2005, at 13:45:04
> After one of my appointments I stopped by to use the restroom. My T came in and went in the next stall. I don't know if she knew it was me that was next to her or not. She blasted one!!!! I don't know if it was just a blast or a total blow-out!!! I thought I better get my butt out of there before she sees me. I realized just how real of a person she truely is!!! I would have died had that been me doing that as she was in the next stall!! She must have been suffering major stomach cramps during our visit and I couldn't see it. Training I guess!!!
> Geez, they are human too!!!
> One time I had to pee really bad before an appointment. I went in to the restroom and she was in there freshening up a bit. I sat down on the pot and do you think I could pee????? NOOOOO. I told her I can't pee with you in here!! She laughed but left and said, see ya in a min. That was imbarassing to me!! I don't normally have that problem..... but I'd never been in there going at the same time she was in there!!! I know she's not imbarrassed to let out a small burp or hic-up.
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> Oh my gosh who brought this topic up???? It makes me laugh!!!!!!!!! Let's share some more fine stories of the T's we think are perfect!!
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> LadyBug
>OMGsh, I would've just died! This thread has been TOO TOO funny! Just what I needed today!
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:28:20
In reply to Hmm, tell me where it hurts..., posted by 10derHeart on May 28, 2005, at 14:27:42
> My T. (picture 50's, balding, kindly-looking, glasses, slightly overweight) had been ill with some nasty chest cold thing - sick enough to cancel all his clients for 2 days.
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> So when he rescheduled me, I come in and we start talking. He was obviously still not well at all. After a couple minutes, something triggered a bad coughing fit, where he turned a bit red, and had to drink water, etc., to get it to stop. Since it seemed a little awkward during the coughing (and I really am a nice person who cares about others), I tried saying something...
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> Me: "I hate those kinds of coughs. I've had that before. Sometimes you can cough so hard it hurts your back muscles."
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> T: (after drinking the water and wiping his eyes) "Well, I'd tell you where this cough hurts me right now, but it would be too embarrassing."
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> !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
> Ewwwwwwwwww!! What the ____!?
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> Any theories?
> No, wait, gross.
> Well, I'm curious, but, ewww..
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> I told this one to my daughter, who is usually fairly creative - and blunt. Her theory is that his pain must have been in the vicinity of the scrotum. Hmmm...I was thinking more toward the..errr...back side areas....
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> Lovely thought she implanted in my head for the future.
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> She can be a provocative young woman...looking for the reaction/laugh - runs in the family, apparently ;-)
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> PS - Lucklily, T. hasn't coughed since - because if he does, I swear I'll have a flashback to his comment/her theory and start giggling like an idiot....
>
If any Ts get sick, buy them some Airborne, it REALLY does work like a charm. A few days, and the cold or what ever is gone. I buy mine at the grocery or health food store.
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:30:41
In reply to silliness, posted by Shortelise on May 28, 2005, at 14:52:05
What did you say?! That's just like a MAN, not a T, but a man. My dear sweet hubby has told me to go shopping and buy lots of stuff to make myself feel better. I normally don't like shopping too much though.
Posted by rubenstein on May 29, 2005, at 11:01:53
In reply to Re: silliness » Shortelise, posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:30:41
Well this is more my silliness than my T's but I was coming home for summer break and I didn't know what to do with my fish. I didn't want to leave him in the car during therapy (for I was leaving right afterwards) and I certainly didn't want to go in there with the fish...I mean I have seen What about Bob? and that would have been too much for me. Well I never drink coffee but I thought I would put the fish in a coffe travel cup and take it in with me like I was drinking it. Well, of course I fidget and get nervous during therapy and take a big gulp of the fish water before I rembered what was actually in the cup. I was mortified but still too terrified to tell him what was actually in the cup so I just sat there with this wierd look on my face and he asked me what that was about and I made up something about having a recollection from childhood. I never told him about this incident until this last May when I was leaving for break again. He died laughing and couldn't believe I went to all that trouble just to make sure I didn't remind him of BOB from the movie "What about Bob."
ahhh therapy
there are some great silly times
rubenstein
Posted by fallsfall on May 29, 2005, at 11:09:27
In reply to Re: Too easy, posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:11:37
Right now I'm going through a "my therapist is so perfect" phase. I could go on and on about how wonderful he is. But I can't think of anything silly or embarrassing that he does. I'm enough of a realist to know that it isn't because he doesn't DO anything silly or embarrassing - just that right now I can't see any of them.
But once in a while he fidgets. He keeps a coin or two next to his chair, and once in a while he will pick one up and hold it for a minute and then put it back down. Maybe I should start analyzing when he does that. That could be amusing.
So, if I do analyze his fidgeting, do I tell him about it when I have it figured out? "Well, Dr. Therapist, I can see that we are starting to discuss a [fill in the blank] topic now - because I see that you have picked up your lucky penny."
Posted by happyflower on May 29, 2005, at 11:16:41
In reply to Re: My turn! » happyflower, posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 9:13:23
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> Aw, damn! I think ya need to revisit this one with him, and see how he reacts! He pulled his chair up close to you? How do you suppose the conversation would have gone if you'd admitted to it? I'd LOVE to know! LOL
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He is so good looking,I would have grabed him and show him how to be theaputic . Pure stress release. Once you make love to a trumpet player, you never want anything else!lol
Posted by happyflower on May 29, 2005, at 11:20:11
In reply to Re: silliness, posted by rubenstein on May 29, 2005, at 11:01:53
There is NO WAY this can be true! This is so dam* funny, I am peeing my pants laughing!
Posted by rubenstein on May 29, 2005, at 11:55:18
In reply to Re: silliness » rubenstein, posted by happyflower on May 29, 2005, at 11:20:11
> There is NO WAY this can be true! This is so dam* funny, I am peeing my pants laughing!
Swear to Pete, the story is true>>>>. can't make up something like that :)
Posted by happyflower on May 29, 2005, at 12:29:59
In reply to Re: My turn! » Jazzed, posted by happyflower on May 29, 2005, at 11:16:41
> >
> >
> > Aw, damn! I think ya need to revisit this one with him, and see how he reacts! He pulled his chair up close to you? How do you suppose the conversation would have gone if you'd admitted to it? I'd LOVE to know! LOL
> >
>
Okay now, Jazzed, I said I was over the erotic stuff, now you got me thinking about it again and I see him in 2 days. I don't think I can look at him now! lol Plus we have some tough stuff to discuss, but maybe I should bring up my fantasies again and see what he does! One thing I remember he told me that would help if I couldn't get the image out of my head was to do "emotional flooding", where you think about it several hours for several days until you are so sick of it, you don't think about it anymore! lol But he said I don't think you need to that! Plus he also said, well you could always put a movie on for the kids and spend a couple of hours taking care of my fantasy in another room. I said well I don't think I need a COUPLE OF HOURS to do it! Maybe I should of said well can I take care of my fantasy next week with you for 50 min, and if it is really good, maybe I could get a couple of extra minutes for good behavior. lol I need to get my mind off this !!!!AAAAAAUUUUUUGGGGHHHHH! This is all your fault Jazzy! lol
Posted by happyflower on May 29, 2005, at 12:34:28
In reply to Re: My turn!, posted by happyflower on May 29, 2005, at 12:29:59
> > >
> > > Plus he also said, well you could always put a movie on for the kids and spend a couple of hours taking care of my fantasy in another room.Opps, a Freudian slip, I should of said your fantasies, not "my", being his. Talk about getting flustered!
Posted by Shortelise on May 29, 2005, at 16:57:32
In reply to Re: silliness, posted by rubenstein on May 29, 2005, at 11:01:53
That is SO SO FUNNY!
Thanks for the ***big*** laugh.
ShortE
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 18:07:57
In reply to Re: My turn!, posted by happyflower on May 29, 2005, at 12:29:59
> >
> Okay now, Jazzed, I said I was over the erotic stuff, now you got me thinking about it again and I see him in 2 days. I don't think I can look at him now! lol Plus we have some tough stuff to discuss, but maybe I should bring up my fantasies again and see what he does! One thing I remember he told me that would help if I couldn't get the image out of my head was to do "emotional flooding", where you think about it several hours for several days until you are so sick of it, you don't think about it anymore! lol But he said I don't think you need to that! Plus he also said, well you could always put a movie on for the kids and spend a couple of hours taking care of my fantasy in another room. I said well I don't think I need a COUPLE OF HOURS to do it! Maybe I should of said well can I take care of my fantasy next week with you for 50 min, and if it is really good, maybe I could get a couple of extra minutes for good behavior. lol I need to get my mind off this !!!!AAAAAAUUUUUUGGGGHHHHH! This is all your fault Jazzy! lol
LOL, THAT was not a freudian slip!!! LMAO!
Yes, I think you definitely SHOULD continue to flood, and BTW, I know that NEVER works for me, just keeps it fresh for me! And, 50 min. twice a week oughta do ya! LOL I think it's hysterical that he suggested putting in a movie, and taking a couple of hours! How did you react?! I can stay with a fantasy for that long! I gotta know how you're next session goes! LOL Be sure to let us know!Jazzed
Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 18:09:48
In reply to Re: silliness, posted by rubenstein on May 29, 2005, at 11:55:18
> > There is NO WAY this can be true! This is so dam* funny, I am peeing my pants laughing!
>
> Swear to Pete, the story is true>>>>. can't make up something like that :)I want YOUR T happyflower! Where is he, and what's his name?! LOL We could all go, and start talking about our fantasies! hehehehe
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