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Posted by Christ_empowered on August 30, 2011, at 18:07:10
I am, of course, talking about myself in particular when I say "some people." I've had short-lived jobs before. I usually ended up getting my hours cut or being avoided in public by co-workers or getting the worst shifts (I got to work doubles on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New years!)
And then when I tried to go back to college...the cruelty I experienced, from both faculty and other students, was almost unbearable. So, now, the question is: what do I do? I take medications, so my core symptoms are adequately suppressed/controlled, but I'll never be "normal" enough for most people.
Maybe applying for disability is the best thing I can do? Do any of you out there have similar experiences to share?
Thanks.
Posted by Dinah on August 30, 2011, at 19:47:02
In reply to Do you think some people just shouldn't work?, posted by Christ_empowered on August 30, 2011, at 18:07:10
You give far too much emphasis on the feelings of "most people". Who cares if you aren't normal enough for them? Normal is a relative term anyway. Most people I know, in or out of the psychiatric community, aren't so normal when you get to know them anyway. Who cares if unpleasant people avoid you? Well, I know everyone does care. But... The prize of having them pay attention to you would be having to spend time with them. As long as they aren't actively tormenting you, just ignore them. And if they are actively tormenting you, contact the state about a hostile workplace. Work is ever so much nicer than middle and high school, where hostility is the expected norm in many schools.
The way you describe your situation, I think I'd advise you to check with your local NAMI, or some other organization that helps place people in a workplace that is right for them. Or a school that is right for them.
My experience with college (admittedly not a top tier Ivy League college) was that faculty and students were way too busy to be cruel to others. Not all colleges are created equal. Not all workplaces are created equal. When you start out anywhere, you likely will get the worst shifts. Once you gain seniority you have more ability to avoid them. Management generally appreciates workers who have proved themselves over a period of time. It's not so easy to retain good people. If you prove yourself to be reliable, and dependable, and to do your work, there will come a time when someone just starting out will get the worst shifts, and you won't.
What type of college did you go to before? Is it possible to try a different environment?
You say your core symptoms are adequately suppressed and controlled. Would disability even be an option? I hear it's increasingly difficult to receive.
Posted by Christ_empowered on August 30, 2011, at 20:45:46
In reply to Re: Do you think some people just shouldn't work? » Christ_empowered, posted by Dinah on August 30, 2011, at 19:47:02
hey, Dinah. I was feeling down, which explains my bummer post.
I went to a state school. Went I went back, there was this surge of hostility towards me. It was incredible.
You're right about work. Now that my symptoms are under control, maybe I can find something, and eventually work on getting a degree (finally...).
And disability. I'm probably going to get denied. Yes, I have Bipolar, and its bad and yes it has interfered with my functioning in the past, often severely, but I respond well to meds and therapy, so I don't know that I'm what they're looking for. The sad thing, I was hoping to get disability in part b/c I heard that some corporations like to hire people on disability b/c they receive tax breaks or something. I thought that way my spotty job history wouldn't matter quite as much--I could use my disabled status to get a job and then get off (or reduce) the disability payments.
Oh well. Thanks for being rational and helpful.
Posted by Phillipa on August 31, 2011, at 11:06:03
In reply to Re: Do you think some people just shouldn't work?, posted by Christ_empowered on August 30, 2011, at 20:45:46
I do know NC is job scare right now other than some minimum wage part time jobs or if the upper end long time worker some are getting laid off. Here with attorney at least two years for disability so I have been told. One girl now was told she shouldn't have gotten it after 2005 and they want over 30,000 back and she has nothing 40 lives at home? So I'd try the school again and maybe some part time. Phillipa
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