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Posted by rainbutterfly on June 25, 2006, at 22:57:55
I am quiet and anxious face to face unless I know someone really well. I tend to zone out or dissociate too so I struggle to follow the conversation and sometimes I can't follow it at all. Meds help although I don't have nearly enough (struggling to find a good doctor) I have been isolating far too much lately and avoiding IRL friends. I really only feel comfortable talking to my husband, it's tough...
On line I am shy too and I beat myself up endlessly when I hurt someone. I know there has been a thread just lately which is partly about social phobia but posting is hard for me at the moment so I have to start somewhere.
I do like attention online and hate to be ignored, so any and all replies are welcome :)
rainbutterfly
Posted by frida on June 26, 2006, at 9:11:55
In reply to IRL and online communication - anxiety, posted by rainbutterfly on June 25, 2006, at 22:57:55
Hi,
I am sorry you are struggling at the moment.I also find it difficult to interact face to face unless I know and trust someone. I find it hard to let go and trust.
But when I do I find it so rewarding...Take it easy online...maybe you are just too hard on yourself...
it is ok to be shy. A lot of people are and it doesn't mean anything wrong.Are you in T?
i find that being able to truly connect to my T helps me a lot.sending you support,
Frida
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> On line I am shy too and I beat myself up endlessly when I hurt someone. I know there has been a thread just lately which is partly about social phobia but posting is hard for me at the moment so I have to start somewhere.
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> I do like attention online and hate to be ignored, so any and all replies are welcome :)
>
> rainbutterfly
Posted by rainbutterfly on June 26, 2006, at 13:48:08
In reply to Re: IRL and online communication - anxiety » rainbutterfly, posted by frida on June 26, 2006, at 9:11:55
Thanks Frida
It's getting worse here
I need to see a T five times a week for years to fix me
Could someone tell me about their experience with rejection sensitivity? I didn't even know there were meds for that.
Ugh
:0( :o(
Posted by Sabrina0805 on June 26, 2006, at 14:30:07
In reply to Re: IRL and online communication - anxiety :o(, posted by rainbutterfly on June 26, 2006, at 13:48:08
I do know the feeling of not being at home on line, it affects me a lot.
I have no advice on meds for rejection sensitivity - it seems to become a part of my daily life.
I wish you strength though!!! And lots of it!
Sabrina
Posted by gardenergirl on June 26, 2006, at 15:12:27
In reply to Re: IRL and online communication - anxiety :o(, posted by rainbutterfly on June 26, 2006, at 13:48:08
> > Could someone tell me about their experience with rejection sensitivity? I didn't even know there were meds for that.
>Hi,
Seeing as how I'm a bit mired in rejection sensitivity again, I can talk about it, unfortunately. It stinks. It's very painful. It's hard for othes to understand. Heck, it's hard for me to understand at times. And it's horribly embarrassing when you sort of realize that whatever hurt so much actually very likely wasn't about you at all. I hate that. (Although I suppose it's a good thing that it isn't all about me.) :)Rejection sensitivity can be one symptom of atypical depression. Another classic symptom of atypical depression is mood reactivity, meaning you can feel happy and light in some circumstances and down in the dumps in others. (In major depression, the sad and down feeling is more prevalent and feeling is much harder and much less likely to occur even in happy circumstances.) Another difference between atypical and major depression is hypersomnia (sleeping a lot more) and/or hyperphagia (eating a lot more) versus the insomnia and loss of appetite that many experience with major depression.
MAOI's such as Nardil, Parnate, and the newest which is Emsam are very good for atypical depression. In my case, it's been the only type of med which has had a significant effect. MAOI's are also quite good for social anxiety, and many report success with that kind of treatment.
Dinah also mentioned Risperdal as helping her with rejection sensitivity. I have never tried that.
What's also helped me with it a great deal is psychotherapy. My T has helped me to see that I have a strong tendency towards rejection sensitivity and likely have always been that way. We've talked a great deal about this specifically, but also indirectly. As I talk about other painful stuff, it seems there is an element of RS in a lot of what is painful to me.
I hope this helps. If you are interested in learning more about MAOIs or Risperdal, you likely can find a lot by searching through the archives on the meds board if you don't feel ready to post there yet.
Take care,
gg
Posted by Dinah on June 26, 2006, at 15:54:25
In reply to Rejection sensitivity » rainbutterfly, posted by gardenergirl on June 26, 2006, at 15:12:27
I don't think Risperdal targets it specifically in me, gg. I think it's more that it keeps my mood from plunging in reaction to it. And since I'm not in the grip of the physical reactions of distress, I'm able to apply a bit more perspective to my situation.
Not sure if I'm making sense here.
But it's easier to think clearly and sensibly about relationship disturbances when I'm not feeling so awful in reaction to them.
Posted by Dinah on June 26, 2006, at 16:01:45
In reply to Re: IRL and online communication - anxiety :o(, posted by rainbutterfly on June 26, 2006, at 13:48:08
I've found meds and therapy together work best for me when it comes to human interaction.
I don't think I've ever really gotten the hang of it.
Posted by llrrrpp on June 26, 2006, at 18:25:11
In reply to Re: IRL and online communication - anxiety :o( » rainbutterfly, posted by Dinah on June 26, 2006, at 16:01:45
Hi Rainbutterfly
you have always been very kind to me in online commnication. I think you're a lovely person, and I just wanted to give you some positive attention :)hugs for you (((Rbf)))
your friend,
-ll
Posted by rainbutterfly on June 28, 2006, at 13:56:34
In reply to Re: IRL and online communication - anxiety :o( » rainbutterfly, posted by Sabrina0805 on June 26, 2006, at 14:30:07
Thanks Sabrina, gardenergirl, Dinah and ll for the advice support and hugs, I have some energy today... the first time in days! :o)
Atypical depression definitely sounds like me (I have seen several not so good shrinks and no one even mentioned that. scratches head)
I do have trouble opening up though so maybe that is why :o(
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