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Re: My decision! :)

Posted by happyflower on June 23, 2005, at 21:51:37

In reply to Re: My decision! :) » happyflower, posted by Jazzed on June 23, 2005, at 21:38:07

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> Yeah, you're right, and since you have the feeling he is attracted to you maybe it will be up to him whether he just can't stand it anymore, and has to confess to you. Keep us posted. Great material for fantasies!
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> I don't think a T would admit it, I guess it harms the therapy process but I guess he doesn't have to confess, because I think I already know! lol Yeah, it makes a great fantasy! Hmmm. only question now is what color of nail polish, red or dark pink? Lipstick? hmmmmm. bra? hmmmmm? what kind of panties? A girl has to be prepared! lol
Besides we do know that T's and client do hook up, there are bad stories there, but I just don't think we know the good ones. I think there was someone on these boards who is engaged to her T. So it can happen, unlikely, but possiable. :)

 

Re: I do admire your confidence:-)

Posted by happyflower on June 23, 2005, at 22:02:09

In reply to I do admire your confidence:-) » happyflower, posted by pinkeye on June 23, 2005, at 21:48:01

> I really admire your confidence !!! And I hope for your sake, that he admits to liking you..
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I don't think he will ever admit it though, and I am not going to ask! lol I guess I don't need him to confirm it anyways, because it isn't going to lead anywhere anyways. It is fun to think about it, but I am a realist.

> I never thought of myself as likeable.. so maybe that is why I thought your T won't admit it to you as well.

> I think you are likeable, sweet, and so caring! I think you just don't know it yet! :)
> But you are pretty sure he likes you, so enjoy it and flirt around !! and have fun. Don't point out his actions to him, because he might get guarded.

Yeah, I think I will just have fun and not worry about it. It is fun to flirt with other people too. Thanks pinkey!

 

above post for pinkey! (nm)

Posted by happyflower on June 23, 2005, at 22:03:04

In reply to Re: I do admire your confidence:-), posted by happyflower on June 23, 2005, at 22:02:09

 

Re: My decision! :) » happyflower

Posted by Jazzed on June 24, 2005, at 8:47:13

In reply to Re: My decision! :), posted by happyflower on June 23, 2005, at 21:51:37

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> > I don't think a T would admit it, I guess it harms the therapy process but I guess he doesn't have to confess, because I think I already know! lol Yeah, it makes a great fantasy!

How often are your sessions? Boy, my thoughts would be consumed in between!

>Hmmm. only question now is what color of nail polish, red or dark pink? Lipstick? hmmmmm. bra? hmmmmm? what kind of panties? A girl has to be prepared! lol

Yes, and pamper yourself a bit, so you feel extra special when you go! I'd go with the dark pink nails, but that's just me. Remember I'm not one for dressing up for my docs/Ts. LOL, good that you can even question no bra! No chance of that for me! Isn't your T very conservative, how would he react to the no bra look? Well, he IS a man, but how would he feel on a deeper level? My husband is a total boob man.

> Besides we do know that T's and client do hook up, there are bad stories there, but I just don't think we know the good ones.

I agree, and you know they're out there. My 1st shrink married a patient. Poor woman!

When's your next session?
Jazzy

 

Re: My decision! :) » Jazzed

Posted by happyflower on June 24, 2005, at 11:24:59

In reply to Re: My decision! :) » happyflower, posted by Jazzed on June 24, 2005, at 8:47:13

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> How often are your sessions? Boy, my thoughts would be consumed in between!
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I started off at every other week, then I told him I wanted to go weekly to keep the momentum going. But this month it has been every other week because of his vacation and his medical stuff. I started therapy in Jan. of this year. I really don't think about him so much anymore. In fact I just kind of kid around here sometimes about it. He is attractive to me in a lot of ways but I have given up the thought of it being any more than it is. But it is fun to fantasize about it. :)

> >Hmmm. only question now is what color of nail polish, red or dark pink? Lipstick? hmmmmm. bra? hmmmmm? what kind of panties? A girl has to be prepared! lol
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This is just my way of having fun with it. I do wear a bra in public, but when I am home, it is off baby! ( Did you see the Bra subject on social) lol He is a kid of the 70's , so I am sure he would like the braless look maybe privately around him. He would probably would not want a wife to look to sexy in public. I think he has a naughty side to him, I can just tell. lol I think I will go with dark pink, besides it is new! lol I have to keep my nails painted or they look really bad because I garden. Plus it protects my nails too.

> Yes, and pamper yourself a bit, so you feel extra special when you go! I'd go with the dark pink nails, but that's just me. Remember I'm not one for dressing up for my docs/Ts. LOL, good that you can even question no bra! No chance of that for me! Isn't your T very conservative, how would he react to the no bra look? Well, he IS a man, but how would he feel on a deeper level? My husband is a total boob man.
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> I agree, and you know they're out there. My 1st shrink married a patient. Poor woman!

How did you find this out? Did they wait 2 years after therapy? How much of it do you know?
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> When's your next session?

My next session is Wed. 11am., I am looking forward to it, it has been a long 2 weeks! :)
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Re: My decision! :) (followed by personal ramble)

Posted by caraher on June 24, 2005, at 11:52:02

In reply to My decision! :), posted by happyflower on June 23, 2005, at 20:34:57

> I guess since he might night answer my question or turn it around on me and why I want to know, I guess there is no point in asking, making us both feel uncomfortable. We are in such a good place right now, I don't want things to change.

Sounds like the best decision to me!

> If he acts odd again when I bring up sex, I will ask him about it. The last time I was talking about when women peak sexually in their 30's and that now I know what it felt like to be a guy at 18. This is an example when he looks away and down. I guess it is too much for him to know he has a horny women accross him, especially since he is attracted to me. Boy, it must be so tough to be a T. But come to think of it, If I said that to most guys, would they get turned on? Maybe I am being inappropiate?

I don't think there's anything inappropriate about saying that, but from my male perspective I'd say that remark would certainly pique heightened interest, especially if uttered by someone I found attractive!

I've thought about asking my T this kind of question, only in a more abstract way. I really don't care if she is attracted to me, I don't entertain romantic or sexual fantasies about her. But I would like to hear an honest answer about what kind of first impression I probably make for the mythical typical woman because of my social anxiety problems. My usual tendency is to shy away from eye contact, smiling etc. in part because I tend to believe I'm a basically unattractive and am better off drawing as little attention to myself as possible. I don't want to make others uncomfortable because they have to deal with a beast like me, nor do I want my face rubbed in my own physical deficiencies.

Now I've done a lot of work on this and have improved quite a bit, to the point that I almost believe that sometimes others actually like it if I say "hi" to them or smile. I guess if I felt like I was at least of "average" attractiveness for my age, etc. I'd feel a lot more comfortable, and that would be my motivation for bringing it up.

 

Re: My decision! :) (followed by personal ramble) » caraher

Posted by happyflower on June 24, 2005, at 12:04:15

In reply to Re: My decision! :) (followed by personal ramble), posted by caraher on June 24, 2005, at 11:52:02

> > But come to think of it, If I said that to most guys, would they get turned on? Maybe I am being inappropiate?
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> I don't think there's anything inappropriate about saying that, but from my male perspective I'd say that remark would certainly pique heightened interest, especially if uttered by someone I found attractive!
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Thanks for being honest, it is always good to get a male perspective on this. He is human after all even if he is a T. By, the way, welcome, I don't seem to reconize your name, if you are new!

> I've thought about asking my T this kind of question, only in a more abstract way. I really don't care if she is attracted to me, I don't entertain romantic or sexual fantasies about her. But I would like to hear an honest answer about what kind of first impression I probably make for the mythical typical woman because of my social anxiety problems. My usual tendency is to shy away from eye contact, smiling etc. in part because I tend to believe I'm a basically unattractive and am better off drawing as little attention to myself as possible. I don't want to make others uncomfortable because they have to deal with a beast like me, nor do I want my face rubbed in my own physical deficiencies.
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How would you feel if she did say that she thought you were attractive? Would that make you feel different torwards her?

I am sure you are not a beast, and are being too hard on yourself. After all you are in therapy, so you can't be all that bad, you want to change and improve your life. It is the people who don't see anything wrong with themselves that worry me! :) It think finding someone attractive is very different for everyone. Like for instance, I think Richard Gere is totally hot, but Tom Cruise is nothing special to me.

> Now I've done a lot of work on this and have improved quite a bit, to the point that I almost believe that sometimes others actually like it if I say "hi" to them or smile. I guess if I felt like I was at least of "average" attractiveness for my age, etc. I'd feel a lot more comfortable, and that would be my motivation for bringing it up.

Well I like that you said "Hi", and I bet others like it too. Smiles are contagious! :) (see I bet you are smiling right now) lol
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Re: My decision! :) (followed by personal ramble)

Posted by caraher on June 24, 2005, at 13:04:00

In reply to Re: My decision! :) (followed by personal ramble) » caraher, posted by happyflower on June 24, 2005, at 12:04:15


> Thanks for being honest, it is always good to get a male perspective on this. He is human after all even if he is a T. By, the way, welcome, I don't seem to reconize your name, if you are new!

Thanks. I don't post a lot so I'm not surprised you don't recognize my name...

> How would you feel if she did say that she thought you were attractive? Would that make you feel different torwards her?

That's an excellent question. But I honestly don't think it would change things for me. She is very professional with well-defined boundaries. I think she is quite attractive, and in fact that's been helpful for me as far as the social anxiety because she encourages eye contact. In the safety of the therapy setting I had the chance to experience the anxiety about looking someone like that in the eye to learn that it would not necessarily prove harmful or fatal to either party ;)

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> Well I like that you said "Hi", and I bet others like it too. Smiles are contagious! :) (see I bet you are smiling right now) lol

:) Well, maybe you wouldn't like it if you knew me (yeah, yeah, I know, I'm just speaking what goes on in my tiny brain :) )

 

You are really funny! :) (nm) » caraher

Posted by happyflower on June 24, 2005, at 13:15:40

In reply to Re: My decision! :) (followed by personal ramble), posted by caraher on June 24, 2005, at 13:04:00

 

Re: My decision! :)

Posted by Jazzed on June 25, 2005, at 6:51:12

In reply to Re: My decision! :) » Jazzed, posted by happyflower on June 24, 2005, at 11:24:59

>He is attractive to me in a lot of ways but I have given up the thought of it being any more than it is. But it is fun to fantasize about it. :)

Well, if it give you fantasies, that's good imo., and if he's nice to look at, well that's a bonus! ; )


> This is just my way of having fun with it. I do wear a bra in public, but when I am home, it is off baby! ( Did you see the Bra subject on social)

Oh yeah, I saw it, and commented that mine are too big to do that. Wish I could. B4 I had kids they were perfect! I'm talking to a surgeon about reduction later this year.

>lol He is a kid of the 70's , so I am sure he would like the braless look maybe privately around him.

So, give it a try, and see his reaction, might be fun to throw him off like that, but I think I'd stay away from any discussion of sex that session. Don't want to do any major damage! LOL

>I think he has a naughty side to him, I can just tell.

That's fun. So, at least you know he's normal in that regard! ; )

> How did you find this out? Did they wait 2 years after therapy? How much of it do you know?

Oh, it was no secret. He was in the same social group as my brother's in-laws, but not directly social with them. They didn't like him so much, mainly bec. of what he did to me. Anyway, the woman he married, lived in OUR neighborhood, we all saw it coming. And NO, they did not wait the two years. He asked her while she was still in therapy with him! He was still married to his wife, but divorced her, and she was in the process of divorce at the time. Then they got married within the year. I genuinely felt sorry for her because of how he messed me up, and because of the things he told me about his first wife. She had a LOT of problems. Geeze, you just HAVE to wonder if he wasn't the root cause.

> My next session is Wed. 11am., I am looking forward to it, it has been a long 2 weeks! :)
> >

I can understand. The wait seems endless. I'm going to ask for more frequent sessions, at least for the summer, so we can get into it and get going with it. I'm so impatient!

Jazzy

 

Re: My decision! :) (followed by personal ramble) » caraher

Posted by Jazzed on June 25, 2005, at 6:58:42

In reply to Re: My decision! :) (followed by personal ramble), posted by caraher on June 24, 2005, at 11:52:02


> I've thought about asking my T this kind of question, only in a more abstract way. I really don't care if she is attracted to me, I don't entertain romantic or sexual fantasies about her.

That's a good idea, after all she is your "test" relationship for the real world, right? And if you say what you said above, then it doesn't put her on the spot.

>My usual tendency is to shy away from eye contact, smiling etc. in part because I tend to believe I'm a basically unattractive and am better off drawing as little attention to myself as possible.

You know, the first thing that attracts me to a guy is a great smile. A real genuine, from the heart, smile. My p-doc is really nice, very warm, and has a super awesome smile. He's not someone I would normally find attractive, but his smile is disarming, at least IMO. Helps that his manner matches, and he loves to laugh.
So smile away now that you're feeling better about yourself! I'm sure you have a wonderful smile. You have a great personality on the boards.
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> I'd feel a lot more comfortable, and that would be my motivation for bringing it up.
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She would probably feel flattered that she has helped you get to this point in your life!

Good luck with that!
Jazzy

 

Re: My decision! :) For Susan too! » Jazzed

Posted by happyflower on June 25, 2005, at 7:15:13

In reply to Re: My decision! :), posted by Jazzed on June 25, 2005, at 6:51:12

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> > So, give it a try, and see his reaction, might be fun to throw him off like that, but I think I'd stay away from any discussion of sex that session. Don't want to do any major damage! LOL

No way am I doing that! lol I am too shy and would feel so embarrest! lol Plus after nursing 2 babies, they aren't as perky as before! lol But it works for my fantasies.

You know I think Susan should write a fantasy book about women and their T's. I am sure since the feeling is so common, it would sell like hotcakes! But I bet she would do a more fun
ending! lol :)


> I'm going to ask for more frequent sessions, at least for the summer, so we can get into it and get going with it. I'm so impatient!

I am impatient too! Have a good weekend! I am going to the Elkhart Jazz Festival tonight so I won't be around much! :)
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Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!

Posted by Jazzed on June 25, 2005, at 7:44:22

In reply to Re: My decision! :) For Susan too! » Jazzed, posted by happyflower on June 25, 2005, at 7:15:13


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> No way am I doing that! lol I am too shy and would feel so embarrest! lol Plus after nursing 2 babies, they aren't as perky as before! lol But it works for my fantasies.

I'm sorry, hope I didn't offend! I know what ya mean, I had 3 out of 4 babies who nursed. Wowza, it really isn't fair is it?

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> You know I think Susan should write a fantasy book about women and their T's. I am sure since the feeling is so common, it would sell like hotcakes! But I bet she would do a more fun
> ending! lol :)

OMGosh, some of her posts make me feel like I need to go get some sex! And of course, they have such a sensual feeling. She creates wonderful visuals, and has a real way with words. Yes, a book would sell like hotcakes, and I'll get in line to buy one now.
Susan, you out there? How 'bout it?
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> I am impatient too! Have a good weekend! I am going to the Elkhart Jazz Festival tonight so I won't be around much! :)

Dam*! I was hoping you'd go see Sharkboy and Lava Girl in 3D w/me and my son! Hey, did you know, there's been research that indicates jazz fans get 30% more sex than other ppl. Interesting!

Jazzy
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Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!

Posted by happyflower on June 25, 2005, at 7:59:07

In reply to Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!, posted by Jazzed on June 25, 2005, at 7:44:22

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> I'm sorry, hope I didn't offend! I know what ya mean, I had 3 out of 4 babies who nursed. Wowza, it really isn't fair is it?

Well since we don't offend each other, how about an agreement? How bout we be as crazy with each other and not worry about offending each other. I guess it could happen, but I think we are stong enough to tell each other! :)
> > > Dam*! I was hoping you'd go see Sharkboy and Lava Girl in 3D w/me and my son!

My kids want to see this, tell me if it is good! We still have to Madagascar. Now that one looks good!

Hey, did you know, there's been research that indicates jazz fans get 30% more sex than other ppl. Interesting!

Well they didn't ask me, because I sure don't! lol Maybe thats why my T and trumpet teacher, and mailman looks so good! lol Oh, well....maybe the mailman will come through. The other day, he said is that you playing that trumpet? I don't know what he meant by that, but he didn't say anymore after I admitted it!

---Horney flower

 

Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!

Posted by Jazzed on June 25, 2005, at 8:09:58

In reply to Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!, posted by happyflower on June 25, 2005, at 7:59:07

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> > I'm sorry, hope I didn't offend! I know what ya mean, I had 3 out of 4 babies who nursed. Wowza, it really isn't fair is it?
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> Well since we don't offend each other, how about an agreement? How bout we be as crazy with each other and not worry about offending each other.

It's a deal!

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> My kids want to see this, tell me if it is good! We still have to Madagascar. Now that one looks good!

We have to see that too, but his friends have seeen it, drat! I'll let you know.

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> Well they didn't ask me, because I sure don't! lol Maybe thats why my T and trumpet teacher, and mailman looks so good! lol Oh, well....maybe the mailman will come through. The other day, he said is that you playing that trumpet? I don't know what he meant by that, but he didn't say anymore after I admitted it!

Ask him!

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> ---Horney flower

LOL, have fun at the concert, horn!


 

Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!

Posted by caraher on June 25, 2005, at 10:24:12

In reply to Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!, posted by Jazzed on June 25, 2005, at 7:44:22

> > You know I think Susan should write a fantasy book about women and their T's. I am sure since the feeling is so common, it would sell like hotcakes! But I bet she would do a more fun
> > ending! lol :)
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> OMGosh, some of her posts make me feel like I need to go get some sex! And of course, they have such a sensual feeling. She creates wonderful visuals, and has a real way with words. Yes, a book would sell like hotcakes, and I'll get in line to buy one now.
> Susan, you out there? How 'bout it?

Hmmm... maybe Susan needs more incentive than just royalties to turn her writing talents toward a book...

Susan, if you're reading, once you publish the book everyone on Babble wants you to write you'll probably have your pick of a fairly large number of men who would love to help you out with your unsatisfied desires. Your steamier posts don't just turn on the ladies, you know ;)

 

Re: My decision! :) For Susan too! » happyflower

Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 18:47:06

In reply to Re: My decision! :) For Susan too! » Jazzed, posted by happyflower on June 25, 2005, at 7:15:13

I know my side, and I can fantasize his so well, with so many different scenarios of his own thoughts and feelings, I've certainly written the books in my head so many times, and every time there's something different about it, some new twist a person could add to the story. Like, a he said she sort of thing, a way to organize our perceptions about these therapy types of relationships. Something that might be fun and also helpful for patients and for T's. There's a demand for books like that. Sigh. But I'm no writer. Who here is a writer? Calling all writers.. how do you learn to write??? Without actually taking the course.. it can't be done, can it.

 

Re: My decision! :) For Susan too! » Jazzed

Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 18:50:15

In reply to Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!, posted by Jazzed on June 25, 2005, at 7:44:22

If you're not talking about me, then my face is really, really red. Like, popping and sweating, the cheeks fully puffed out the skin shiny, you know that hurt feeling you get when you really blow your cheeks out? Like a burning sensation. I'm exploding with embarrassment, my mouth is making that bum shape. That used to be big in cartoons when I was a kid, that anal mouth. Hah. Oh yes, and the crossed eyes. I'd love to see some of those old cartoons right now. :)

 

Re: My decision! :) For Susan too! » happyflower

Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 18:51:51

In reply to Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!, posted by happyflower on June 25, 2005, at 7:59:07

I did Madagascar with my son, it's not really my thing but he loved it, I'm glad I took him. There wasn't enough adult humour in it to satisfy me, I guess. But there were quite a few good laughs.

 

Re: My decision! :) For Susan too! » caraher

Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 18:56:32

In reply to Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!, posted by caraher on June 25, 2005, at 10:24:12

Once again, if you're not talking about me I'm toast.
Because I really love putting stuff down, stuff I can really let my head get into, and then sometimes my body follows, and it's fab-u-lous, absolutely fabulous. God. Okay, the one time I would actually believe there is a God, would be that ultimate sexual experience with the ultimate person.. the one you really want to be with, the person you've wanted to touch, to caress with your eyes, for so long, the person you've just wanted to be alone with, that's all. The only.
Oh, my. The orchid speaks again.
You know, one person can have a lot of different voices. I like that.

 

Changing topic a sec, and Happyflower too » pinkeye

Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 19:40:47

In reply to You would never know !!! » happyflower, posted by pinkeye on June 23, 2005, at 17:02:12

That was beautifully put, about the bandwidth, it's a pretty accurate description of the amount of attention they can give to any one person. Like all of us, there's a lot of other stuff in our heads too. I'd suspect more so with a thinking therapist. I think it's important for a therapist to be happy with himself and his life, really very interested in his own life, but not to the exclusion of having a bit of extra time to think things through, you know ... it's a balancing act, I'm pretty sure of that. I bet sometimes they get a bit topheavy, and teeter, and maybe need a bit of help, because they have to stay emotionally stable, that's their big priority I suppose, or at least I think it should be, for everybody. It's a gift, it really is.
I fell in love with this man, and I feel really kind of silly. It's embarrassing, because love isn't supposed to have a "silly" string attached. But this one does, from all the people that have said, "Oh, that's Classic." It makes it feel like I'm being judged for being in love with someone, when I really do love this person, I love what I know of this person, or what I feel to be true about this person. I love the feeling, too, it fills me up and makes me feel full of joy. Enjoy, did you know that word means In the state of joy? En- is within. Within joy. So when somebody tells you to enjoy something, you're really getting a wonderful wish for yourself.
I don't think we should feel bad about being attracted to somebody, no matter who it is... maybe if this woman's therapist admitted his own feelings, well if he looks at himself and has them, he wouldn't feel pressured when she talks about sex. If he has fantasies, that's great, it's fine, but he has to get all his needs met before he walks into that room with a client because otherwise he's put a block there, something there's no way the client can work around. Sounds like happyflower's therapist has to figure out why he's uncomfortable around her, no matter what it is, even if it's something that's Not good, he has to deal with it and get it out of the way, Happyflower you have to be able to talk to him.. tell him about the faces he's making, try to get him to see that he's giving you some reactions you're having a hard time dealing with.

 

Re: Changing topic a sec, and Happyflower too » Susan47

Posted by happyflower on June 26, 2005, at 20:08:17

In reply to Changing topic a sec, and Happyflower too » pinkeye, posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 19:40:47

Thanks Susan,
You make a lot of sense to me. I do think I will ask him about his reactions when I talk about sex. I am sure this subject will come up again. I think he fine talking about sex in general, but when it comes to me talking about my sex drive it seems to affect him in some wierd way. I think if he is attracted to me, and he is still a man, even if he is a T, a T still has a penis if you know what I mean.lol Thanks for your input Susan! :)

 

Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!

Posted by caraher on June 26, 2005, at 20:14:47

In reply to Re: My decision! :) For Susan too! » happyflower, posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 18:47:06

> But I'm no writer. Who here is a writer? Calling all writers.. how do you learn to write??? Without actually taking the course.. it can't be done, can it.

You're not hearing us... you have a wonderful talent of expression that comes from within. I could take a million classes and never come up with what you do. You're already a writer; you just need an editor, practice and the decision to do it (not necessarily in that order ;) )

 

Yes, he does have one, and quite I'm sure it's

Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 21:51:31

In reply to Re: Changing topic a sec, and Happyflower too » Susan47, posted by happyflower on June 26, 2005, at 20:08:17

....absolutely the loveliest penis ... sigh.
Here comes a rant,
I can't help it,
sorry.
Y'know, there's not many people out there who can do it for me, I wish there were. I need to get excited about someone real. It's just so bloody hard, it doesn't come easily to trust and desire and lust and feel really good things about wanting to be with a particular person.. it's just ridiculous that therapists get paid for people to feel this way about them. It's just no fun, unrequited desire, unrequited lust, I Hate the feeling sometimes, it's so FRUSTRATING, Life Is Too Bloody Short for This Sh*t. How can anybody stand it??? I would never ever ever choose to see a male therapist again, that I was immediately attracted to. It would just be stupid. It's torture, it's absolute hell and I hate it.

 

Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!

Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 21:55:42

In reply to Re: My decision! :) For Susan too!, posted by caraher on June 26, 2005, at 20:14:47

D'you know what?
There is absolutely a method to writing.
I don't know what it is.
First of all, a story needs to be told.
So, you have to have a story.
Do you have one? I'm not sure I'd know how to tell mine.
I might do better just to keep .. hmm... straggling along, like this,
making myself happy when I can, working during the day and getting my compensation from being with sick people who need my help. I like that. And then there's a lot of smart people around there, caring smart people ... also lots of potential friends, I love that. But writing is difficult, when it doesn't come from your heart. To write you really honestly have to have an open heart. There's just no other way to do it.
But then you also have to have the method.
Not just the "way with words", you know, but the ability to tell the story from beginning to end, so that it has meaning all the way through, it excites the reader and then resolves. It's like an orgasm, really, same structure. Ooops.


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