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Posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 15:03:16
I owned 2 pet rabbits. I wasn't taken care of them good enough, so my father shot them in their cage. My mom made them for dinner and made me eat them, telling me only later it was my pet rabbits, not chicken.
Spanking me and my brother with a ruler, until it cut through the skin and left me unable to sit comforatablly for days. We were not allowed to cry while she beat us or it would last longer and she would hit harder. She thought this was funny with her evil laughter. We were threatened with that she would kill us if we told our dad or anyone else.
For years I was told my brothers brain damage was caused by a mistake made by a doctor when he was born. Well after taking him to a nerualigist as an adult, after a lot of testing, found out that the brain damage was caused by severe head trama common in child abuse of a bad car accident. He was never in an accident.
These are only a few of many memories of my evil mother. Thanks for reading.
Posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 15:10:03
In reply to Sick memories of my mom*could trigger*, posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 15:03:16
My heart really really goes out to you. IT is so so extremely extremely cruel.
My dad also used to threaten me not to cry when he spanked me.. He used to make me get the stick myself with which he would beat me after. I think they get a kick out of it or something.. God knows why people become so cruel.
I wish for you that your kids love you a lot.. as I think they would do now. You deserve a lot of love and affections, and if it not your mom, I am sure you will find it someplace else.
You are right about divocing your mom. I fully support you.
Posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 15:23:53
In reply to Re: Sick memories of my mom*could trigger* » happyflower, posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 15:10:03
Oh, I am really fine. I have accepted it , I can't change it. It is up to me to go on and have a happy life. I have stopped the cycle of abuse. I love my kids, they will never live the childhood that I did. They are hugged and told they are loved everyday. I was never hugged or told I was loved. After receiving the unmarked packages from my mom for my kids, it cause me to have PTSD. That is what brought me to therapy in Jan. I know my childhood sounds bad, and it was, but I have dealt with most of it, and have healed myself. My T is really surprised by how well I have grown up with the kind of childhood I had. He totally supports me shutting my life off with my mom. He said she is one of the sickest examples of emotional, physical, and neglect he has ever seen in his 30 years of being a T. If I can get through all of this, you all can too! I am doing so much better, I feel like I am floating with happiness now. Thanks to my T, I really know what happiness is. I love my kids and DH and they are my sunshine in my life. I am starting a whole new family tree.
Posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 15:30:22
In reply to Re: Sick memories of my mom*could trigger*, posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 15:23:53
You know what, there are absolutely no words to express the admiration and affection I feel for you. You are just so awesome, and truly truly amazing. I am like nothing compared to you.
I am incredibly happy that you have turned out to be such a wonderful and happy person, and that you have got great DH (what does that mean? DH means what? - I assume husband? ) and kids and a great T. I hope things go all well for you from now.
Posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 15:31:54
In reply to Re: Sick memories of my mom*could trigger*, posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 15:23:53
Plus, I would like to consider you my babble friend :-). How old are you? I am 28. Will be 29 in december.
Posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 15:45:57
In reply to Re: Sick memories of my mom*could trigger* » happyflower, posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 15:31:54
Thank you pinkeye, you have brought tears to my eyes. I am 36 and DH stands for dear husband or if you are mad, D*mn husband. lol DD, dear daughter, DS dear son. I am glad I am your friend. :) I need friends like you.
Posted by Tamar on May 11, 2005, at 15:53:30
In reply to Sick memories of my mom*could trigger*, posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 15:03:16
> I owned 2 pet rabbits. I wasn't taken care of them good enough, so my father shot them in their cage. My mom made them for dinner and made me eat them, telling me only later it was my pet rabbits, not chicken.
> Spanking me and my brother with a ruler, until it cut through the skin and left me unable to sit comforatablly for days. We were not allowed to cry while she beat us or it would last longer and she would hit harder. She thought this was funny with her evil laughter. We were threatened with that she would kill us if we told our dad or anyone else.
> For years I was told my brothers brain damage was caused by a mistake made by a doctor when he was born. Well after taking him to a nerualigist as an adult, after a lot of testing, found out that the brain damage was caused by severe head trama common in child abuse of a bad car accident. He was never in an accident.
> These are only a few of many memories of my evil mother. Thanks for reading.
>I'm constantly astonished that people can be so cruel, especially to children. It's odd to think that nowadays there's so much fear of strangers when most abused children are abused by members of their families.
I'm so sorry to hear about your rabbits, and about the physical abuse. You're doing a great job with your own kids, expecially considering your history. It's wonderful to hear that you can be such a great mom after your own mom set such a shockingly poor example.
Good for you.
Tamar
Posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 17:04:58
In reply to Re: Sick memories of my mom*could trigger* » pinkeye, posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 15:45:57
Posted by JenStar on May 11, 2005, at 19:17:00
In reply to Sick memories of my mom*could trigger*, posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 15:03:16
I'm so sorry you had to go through that! I'm glad to hear that your life now is above that -- that you've been able to build a new life without abuse and sadness. No child should ever have to endure that. It's horrible, horrible.
take care of yourself!
JenStar
Posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 21:32:35
In reply to Sick memories of my mom*could trigger*, posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 15:03:16
You know these stories are only the tip of the iceberg. It is unbelievable that today she has turned all my relatives against me because I abandoned her after my father died. She tells everyone that she doesn't know what she did to make me not want to be with her. Do you think she is in denial, or is she just turning other against me?
Posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 22:10:14
In reply to Re: Sick memories of my mom*could trigger* » happyflower, posted by Tamar on May 11, 2005, at 15:53:30
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> I'm constantly astonished that people can be so cruel, especially to children. It's odd to think that nowadays there's so much fear of strangers when most abused children are abused by members of their families.
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> I'm so sorry to hear about your rabbits, and about the physical abuse. You're doing a great job with your own kids, expecially considering your history. It's wonderful to hear that you can be such a great mom after your own mom set such a shockingly poor example.
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> Good for you.
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> Tamar
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> Thanks Tamar, I know a child worse enemy can be their own parents. It still amazes me that I made it out alive in spite of it all.
Posted by Susan47 on May 14, 2005, at 0:53:28
In reply to Re: Sick memories of my mom*could trigger* » Tamar, posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 22:10:14
Your story is an inspiration, happyflower. It reminds me how strong the human spirit is.
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