Posted by ClearSkies on January 22, 2008, at 14:10:51
In reply to Re: Scared of job search failure/maxime, posted by TexasChic on January 19, 2008, at 18:04:41
TC, that's really good for you! You keep shining, you know that? Standing up to bullies in the workplace is very tough, especially for those of us with esteem issues. But once you've been able to stand up for yourself, I do think that it becomes a bit easier each time you're called on to do it. Even as a volunteer, it happens. I had to stand my ground with a very pushy old bag (I mean a retired woman) who was trying to get me to donate more of my time and even my MONEY to the organization. And I could feel my ears turning red with anger, you know? but I just said, "I'm really comfortable with the level that I'm participating at right now, thank you." (Never mind that I had to say this about 3 times before she backed down.) Eventually, she heard the "NO" in my words, and stopped bugging me.
I found it so hard to do, but she hasn't bothered me since, and I've found it a less stressful environment since I've found my "voice". There's hope for us all.