Posted by Maxime on January 4, 2008, at 13:56:49
In reply to Scared of job search failure, posted by stargazer2 on January 3, 2008, at 15:21:10
I was in your boat over a year ago. I had gone a long time without a job and I had NO confidence at all.
I decided that if I did find work, that I would let people get me down. It worked for about 8 months and then I became severely depressed. But since I did it for 8 months, I know that it's possible. And it's possible for you too!
Failure at ANYTHING is always cause for worry with me.
> Why am I so afraid of not getting a job? I only see why someone won't hire me due to my gaps in time and my resume of lateral moves.
> I am too afraid of rejection and it is making me paralyzed to look for a job.
> I know I am smart enough but my last 2 jobs have really made me think I am unable to work becasue of issues of not being able to stand up to bullies and being taken advantage of by others. Obviously when one is depressed it's like waving a red flag and others move in to criticise your abilities and take advantage of you being vulnerable.
> I have so little confidence in being able to stand up for myself anymore. Even socialy I feel others are trying to challenge me and push me to a point I am not comfortable...why is this?
> What can I do to get over this feeling of vulnerability?