Posted by AuntieMel on January 7, 2005, at 10:21:40
In reply to partlycloudy, AuntieMel, alexandra k -- Thanks..., posted by marjorie on January 6, 2005, at 9:03:50
Dr. Phil (yea, I know, but this bit of advice made sense) says that you never get rid of a bad habit. You replace it with a better habit.
So, when the urge hits - don't just gut through it. Do something else, preferably something that requires some physical activity. Take a walk, garden, scrub the grout with a toothbrush (my personal favorite) - anything that gets you moving and is useful. Replace bad feelings (I'm just a useless drunk) with good ones (my that floor looks great)
Keep in mind, though, that a key trait of alkies is dishonesty - and a key to recovery is honesty. This doesn't mean that you have tell the world, but hiding it from your husband really only makes you feel worse - which can sabotage the whole thing. And the kids? Trust me, unless they are very, very young (under 2 or 3) they know something is wrong - they just may not have put a name to it.
Since you are so good at (aren't we all??) subterfuge, use those skills to hide an AA blue book. Instead of sneaking a drink, sneak a read. The first 5 chapters, over and over.
Ok, nagging is over. Enjoy the weekend. I'll try to check in from time to time.
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