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Re: Lots of updates

Posted by Deneb on June 9, 2018, at 12:35:47

In reply to Re: Lots of updates alexandra_k, posted by Deneb on September 12, 2017, at 15:08:33

More big updates! I'm not on Babble much these days, but I do drop by a few times a year. Babble is really quiet now. I do miss how Babble used to be.

Anyways, I'm married now (-:

Everything is pretty good. No issues living together with my new husband. I'm still not used to sharing my bed though so I sleep in another room for now. Fortunately my husband understands and is OK with whatever makes me comfortable. I think first we need to get two single beds and put them together before I want to attempt to share my bed again. He's fine with sharing, but I'm a very temperamental sleeper. I need a lot of space.

But the biggest and most shocking news is that I'm pregnant already! I pretty much got pregnant two days after I got married lol.

We were planning on trying to conceive immediately after our wedding because I was worried about it taking a long time to get pregnant due to my older age (36.5). I had been charting my temperature 10 months and using ovulation prediction kits for 5 months before getting married, in preparation for trying to conceive. I had also been taking prenatal vitamins, fish oil, folic acid and ubiquinol for months before.

I had anticipated trouble getting pregnant due to my "geriatric" age for pregnancy, so it was really shocking that I pretty much got pregnant on the first try. It was literally the first time I had sperm in my body and I got pregnant lol.

I'm feeling pretty good now. I'm 4 weeks 5 days pregnant (but the embryo has only existed for 2 weeks 5 days). I find it funny that people are considered pregnant starting from the first day of their last period instead of the last day of ovulation.

No one knows yet besides my husband and I haven't seen my doctor yet. We're probably going to keep it to ourselves until the first trimester is over because of the high chance of spontaneous abortion, especially at my age.

I'm really hoping my embryo/fetus sticks! I'm so excited about having a baby. My husband is great with kids. I like them, but I'm awkward around them and kids don't tend to like me. I don't think I'm very approachable to kids and I don't know how to interact with them. It's all good though because my husband is awesome with them, and I'm sure I'll get better with them with practice.

Initially I had planned on my husband being the stay-at-home dad while I go back to work ASAP (and it's somewhat possible now that I actually make more money than he does now - I get paid a fair wage but he's definitely underpaid for the skills that he has), but I'm reading about the benefits of breast milk and I think I'll attempt to stay home to breastfeed for 6 months if possible.

Either way is fine with us. Ideally nether of us works lol, but that's not practical. He's definitely going to take at least two months paternity leave though. I definitely don't want to get too much more caregiving experience than he does. It's not fair for men. I'm a very strong feminist and I strongly believe in the importance of fathers in children's lives.


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