Posted by Twinleaf on May 3, 2013, at 15:37:29
In reply to Not really a distortion, posted by 2stressed on April 26, 2013, at 21:40:37
In human relationships generally, it's very rare that all the fault is on one side only. You have clearly been hurt badly, Phillipa, and have made many efforts to improve your relationships with your children. I am very sorry that this happened to you. But I, too, remember that you said here that you did not want to be involved with your new grand-daughter. This undoubtedly hurt your daughter very much, and contributed to your estrangement from her. If you genuinely want to make things better, a great place to start would be to be a loving grandmother who is willing to spend some time with this little child.
It is so much easier to blame others for everything, and it can make you feel better about yourself for a little while. But, if you never look at the parts of your own behavior which could be improved, you will probably go on hurting your children just as they are hurting you. That way, nothing ever gets healthier or happier. If this is your choice, wouldn't it be better to keep it a private matter?
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