Posted by Dinah on December 11, 2011, at 21:01:46
In reply to Re: self-interest » Dinah, posted by hyperfocus on December 11, 2011, at 20:31:15
We've had different experiences.
I was bullied in middle and early high school by my peers, but not for that reason. In my later school years, I was pretty active in challenging and questioning, but I never met with more than mild annoyance. I was often met with interest or at least tolerant amusement. My teachers and professors had to earn my esteem if they were to get it, and I had a healthy amount of intellectual arrogance myself. To my regret, I remember behaving rudely towards a few teachers or professors I didn't think were qualified for their positions.
It's not that I don't know people can behave badly. I know they can. But I've been fortunate in that the situations where that's been a problem have been optional, and I've chosen to walk away.
Everyone, in my opinion, deserves to be treated with basic respect. I'm sorry you had to experience its absence.
I'm not in any way excusing any poor treatment you received but, pragmatically speaking, do you think you've learned which ways of expressing your interests led to better results? For example, treating each assignment as an opportunity for learning more is a good thing. But sometimes the work just has to be done, and further exploration has to wait for a more opportune moment.
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