Posted by TexasChic on December 12, 2009, at 10:52:21
In reply to feeling friendless, posted by inanimate peanut on December 6, 2009, at 16:24:01
I understand COMPLETELY! I have no true close friends IRL. I have posted many times about what a recluse I'm turning into too. But I am trying to reach out, and I think that is all you can do - keep trying. Its uncomfortable, and sometimes it doesn't work out, but to keep trying is better than giving up! If you give up you have no hope at all, but if you keep trying there is still hope.
I've tried connecting with people from work, from the apartments I live in, old schoolmates, and through various social networks. There's this thing called meetup.com that lets people arrange get-togethers for any subject under the sun! I went to a few meetups several years ago and met some cool people. I'm sure its still around, and probably other things like it now too.
Another way to meet people is through volunteering. I've thought about volunteering at an animal shelter since I love animals so much. Even if I didn't meet any potential friends, it would feel good to be around the unconditional love of animals.
I'm still more or less a recluse, but I'm beginning to see people responding to my attempts at friendship, and its very encouraging. It makes me want to try harder. I hope it helps to know there are others who feel like you do. Hang in there.
-T
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