Posted by janejane on December 8, 2009, at 10:40:04
In reply to feeling friendless, posted by inanimate peanut on December 6, 2009, at 16:24:01
I know exactly what you're going through, peanut. I'm in a relationship now but was very lonely for many years. I know how hard it can be to make friends when you live in a different city, plus being depressed and shy (in my case) can make it that much harder to meet people.
Have you ever tried using personal ads? I have in the past and found them to be a great way to meet really nice, smart, fascinating people I wouldn't have met ordinarily. Not just to date, but regular friends to hang out with. There are probably a lot of people in your area who are in the same boat as you and would like to be friends with you if you could only find one another.
If you've never used ads before you just have to remember to be safe and don't give out too much personal info at first. Get a feel for whether you have stuff in common before agreeing to meet, then meet in a public place, since you can never be too cautious these days. I made quite a few platonic same and opposite sex friends through ads. Boyfriends too.
Please know there are others who understand exactly what you're going through. Write back and less us know how you're doing.
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