Posted by Larry Hoover on August 25, 2009, at 9:38:38
In reply to Wannanorexia, posted by Deneb on August 24, 2009, at 21:42:23
I think that so long as you focus your thoughts on the outcome, you will continue to struggle. IMHO, your attention should be on the process.
When you get the thought, the drive to binge, what is it that you are really experiencing? What need is it that you are trying to meet?
Feeling guilty afterwards solves nothing, and probably feeds back to whatever it is that triggers you in the first place. You need to learn to self-observe in those critical moments when the behaviour is triggered. You need to identify the sequence of thoughts and feelings. They may happen rapidly, but there is a sequence involved, one that repeats with each event. Once you identify some key element in that sequence upon which to focus, you can learn to divert your energy into something else, other than bingeing.
The emotional map has led you to bingeing, but the map goes other places, too. You have a habit of going to one place. You can find other places you like better.
Lar
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