Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 3, 2009, at 18:02:47
In reply to Re: Both my dates bailed out on today, posted by Deneb on June 3, 2009, at 15:30:26
> I coaxed outdoorsy guy to go out with me. He decided he could handle a walk. We walked/sat for about 40 mins.
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> Why is it so hard to find a confident, positive good looking guy who isn't insecure and negative??
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> I think he is very good looking. He is kind of short and I am guessing a lot of women have rejected him because of that. Very quiet, is humourous, but opinionated and just negative. Why why why are so many people negative? I ask, do you like living here? His answer? No I hate living here. I ask, do you have any friends? No, I don't have friends, all my friends want to do is go out and drink. I can tell he is not an easy going guy. I was really nice I hope. I even gave him a small hug, but I made sure to walk back to the starting point really quickly. I think maybe he is a nice guy, but he seems to like being alone more and is way too insecure. Being scared of rejection to the point of not even meeting people is not very attractive.
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> Am I being too hard on these guys or what? I am going by gut feelings. Should I give this guy another chance? I hope he doesn't like me.
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> Where are the normal guys? Have they all been taken?Deneb:
I am sorry you are having such a hard time. I still remember being back your age and having the same problems with women, and I STILL have problems too!..lol. But, some healing to a bit of my mental health, and some aging have given me that "I'm old enough not to care to much...about what you think of me.." attitude. Somehow, I think dating is like playing the lottery. As one of my fave songs goes.."I believe there is a ghost of a chance, to find someone to love, and make it last..." I lost a partner and child to tragedy...and I thought there was NO way I could ever get through it all...no reason to go on. 14 or so years latter, yes it has been hell at times, but I am "dating" once again. I was...about 26 back then...and I now turn 40 this year. I am far from where I want to be, but stumble on the good part of the trail once in awhile.
Jay
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