Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 1, 2009, at 16:59:43
In reply to Re: Desire for Love...so powerful...ya I know cliche??, posted by Dinah on June 1, 2009, at 11:47:27
> What is it you're looking for? Are you fishing in the right waters? If materialism is something you dislike, then don't order expensive wine for a woman. Order within your budget, and if she objects, isn't she showing you that she's not the right woman for you?
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> Lawyers and other professionals, even elegant ones, can be very nice people. I am frequently with people who have more money than I do, and who are better dressed and groomed than I am. I know what it's like to feel inferior socially. But that's only true of groups of people. Individuals are individuals. She might be someone who is looking for a guy just like you. Or she might not be. But either way, you aren't going to be able to tell just by social class.
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> Admittedly my experience in dating is small. But I do have friends who've talked to me. It's my experience that women give more of a chance to a guy who is being himself and is comfortable. Shy and embarrassed is fine, as long as it's genuine. If you're a beer person, order beer.
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> And if what you're looking for is a sensitive woman who cares about the social issues that you care about and is open to a long term relationship, where do those women congregate? If you're religious, you could find a church with an active singles ministry. If you aren't, there are always charities, or political meetings. Very young women might like danger and excitement in a man. But mature sensible women who is looking for a long term relationship are probably looking for a decent guy who listens to them, has a good sense of humor, is genuine, and has decent values that match their own.
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> Don't worry about expensive drinks, expensive cologne, or your hairline. The kind of woman who cares a lot about that is probably not the sort who will fill the space you describe.Hi Dinah:
Thanks kindly for the post. No, I honestly for once, am not really confused about what I am looking for. I am back, "in the land of the living", just taking in the experiences, if that makes sense. I am finally swimming with other fish, and may find a catch I want to keep. I am in a bit of 'awe' I guess.
Thanks kindly...
Jay :)
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