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Re: Desire for powerful...ya I know cliche??

Posted by Dinah on June 1, 2009, at 11:47:27

In reply to Desire for powerful...ya I know cliche??, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 1, 2009, at 0:57:18

What is it you're looking for? Are you fishing in the right waters? If materialism is something you dislike, then don't order expensive wine for a woman. Order within your budget, and if she objects, isn't she showing you that she's not the right woman for you?

Lawyers and other professionals, even elegant ones, can be very nice people. I am frequently with people who have more money than I do, and who are better dressed and groomed than I am. I know what it's like to feel inferior socially. But that's only true of groups of people. Individuals are individuals. She might be someone who is looking for a guy just like you. Or she might not be. But either way, you aren't going to be able to tell just by social class.

Admittedly my experience in dating is small. But I do have friends who've talked to me. It's my experience that women give more of a chance to a guy who is being himself and is comfortable. Shy and embarrassed is fine, as long as it's genuine. If you're a beer person, order beer.

And if what you're looking for is a sensitive woman who cares about the social issues that you care about and is open to a long term relationship, where do those women congregate? If you're religious, you could find a church with an active singles ministry. If you aren't, there are always charities, or political meetings. Very young women might like danger and excitement in a man. But mature sensible women who is looking for a long term relationship are probably looking for a decent guy who listens to them, has a good sense of humor, is genuine, and has decent values that match their own.

Don't worry about expensive drinks, expensive cologne, or your hairline. The kind of woman who cares a lot about that is probably not the sort who will fill the space you describe.




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