Posted by confuzyq on August 15, 2007, at 21:31:14
In reply to Re: Gals...really need your help please!! » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by Gabbi-2 on August 14, 2007, at 19:43:51
> > > Jay I agree with Kath about the article, and But, you got to wonder what people are looking for in spending 4.2 minutes with a stranger?
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> Yeah, do you ever. I've heard of speed dating but didn't know it was 4.2 minutes. I spend longer choosing a magazine.
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> Or maybe it's you know.. the obvious : 0
> It has to be.
> I think?
>
Never done it but one benefit that occurs to me is practically zero time to get *too* nervous, stick foot in mouth too far, expect to be too enthralling, etc. One could probably get through the whole 4 minutes ok with just shared giggling over how impossible it is to work with.And having to subsequently just go with your gut about who seemed <insert what you like here, e.g. warm, comfy, humorous, spirited, twinkly eyes, intriguing somehow, etc.> might not be a bad thing at all really; and not necessarily based on just looks and immediate attraction. Too much time to ponder and procrastinate can be the death of many things that would've worked out just fine in reality anyway. Of course one may want to be especially sure to keep the first date short and sweet (and in a populous area ;) by design, just in case.
So, I think it sounds like it has its definite "upright" possibilities. Altho, I don't know if maybe it does tend to attract too many ppl who are hoping for "relationships" that last about as long as the 4 minute first meeting did. ;-) Oh wait I know -- stereotypists (is that a real word?) would say that is often determined by gender. Well, I'll say in advance that even that wouldn't be insurmountable if one has good instincts about that kind of thing. No method is perfect, that's for sure!
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