Posted by seldomseen on August 15, 2007, at 16:08:08
In reply to Gals...really need your help please!!, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on August 14, 2007, at 8:06:11
ALright, as a chic I may be in the minority here, but I think there is a lot of truth to what that guy has to say.
Looks have never been important to me at all, neither has money, nor status, nor any of the other trappings that some men tend to think that women like.
For me, the guy is right on when he says that it is how the woman FEELS when she is with a guy that is important.
I've dated men that - even though we had absolutely nothing in common - for some reason, I was just happy around them.
So, for your sake, I asked myself what about these men made me feel so good - what was the common thread?
And I came up with several things - some suitable for the post-modern feminist, others not.
1. They were relaxed and confident. They were all "good in their own skin". They just sort of had the air like "I don't have to prove anything to anybody. Here I am - deal with it"
2. They were consistent in their mood and it was usually a good one.
3. They understood that I could be totally irrational, didn't try to fix me and didn't hold it against me.
4. They knew when to ask my opinion on something vs when to take control.
5. I was not their whole life, but there was room in their life for me.
6. They let me take care of them.
7. They could each offer me a new experience - whether it be operating a piece of heavy machinery, picking blackberries, or showing me how to operate a recording studio etc...
These are just my thoughts on the subject, overall though my best advice would be to never underestimate a woman's intuition.
I think most of us truly can sense fear, cruelty and know when we are being patronized or courted for OUR looks alone and react to it.
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