Posted by Honore on July 18, 2007, at 15:37:01
In reply to Re: A much older married man and I have fallen in love » PhoenixGirl, posted by Glydin on July 18, 2007, at 9:07:59
I'm afraid that I have to add my warning also. When people haven't left their wife-- usually there's a reason, which involves at least some element of not being ready to leave.
Plus-- I do fear his unfaithfulness and "I haven't loved my wife in years"--this is always somehow taken as a negative reflection on his wife-- but why? she somehow is assumed to be undeserving of his affection? not attractive, etc?
This seems to me to be a trap, a category-- into which one also is always in danger of having (in his mind) fallen-- and I think it will hang over the relationship eventually when the excitement and newness fade.
I really really would be careful and self-protective here. Easy for me to say, I know-- and very very hard to carry out.
Honore
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