Posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 7:01:29
In reply to Re: I feel accused dismissed guilt-tripped and sad » zazenducke, posted by Daisym on April 22, 2007, at 0:58:16
(((((Daisy)))) I am sorry you got in the mix of all this. I am sure I am one who started this, by speaking out against joking about abuse. I still am on this issue.
I think sometimes it seems when there is a controversial topic (and believe me I have been in a few around here), it seems like things do go off in many tangents to everything else other than the subject. Then the main issue gets lost in the shuffle and forgotten, which caused a lot of frusteration.
I think there are some main issues that have come from this.
1. should abuse jokes of animals and people be allowed on a mental health site because of the sensistivity of the "clientale"
2. Is it possible to be a deputy and a personal poster at the same time and still remain objective in a duel role.
I believe the trouble comes is when it become "personal". Can deputies not let their personal views "flavor" the decisions they make. I believe they can't all the time, and this is where a lot of hostility comes in because of their choices. I agree with everyone else that they do the best job they can under the circumstances and I do value their volunteer work. I personally don't think it is fair to put them in such a demanding role, especially since many are having their own personal struggle too.
Someone more neurtral would be better suited and I am sure Dr. Bob could get someone not connected to anyone personally here, who is in training to be a T or something simular, to volunteer as a depupty as part of their training. I feel it would save a lot of hurt feelings. Plus it would allow the deputies to be regular posters, were they are equal to everyone else.
So I don't think it is all bad stuff that has come out of this.And the thing about allowing abuse jokes , well I have talked enought about why it shouldn't be allowed here, and I won't keep bringing it up.
So I know there are a lot of hurt feelings here, people are taking of sides of who they want to support, which is fine, but if we all could look at things objectivley as possible,(without the personal feelings) maybe the issues that were addressed in the first place would have some resolution. In my heart, I am only trying to make Babble a better place. I am not trying to fight with anyone.
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