Posted by laima on January 23, 2007, at 22:06:30
In reply to Re: Please tell me my life isn't ruined » laima, posted by Deneb on January 23, 2007, at 18:33:09
Great! You have a plan. Now, if you believe in yourself and the plan, you are set! That's key, I've found in my own fumblings- without a coherent explanation, just for self, about what you are doing, it gets murky and wishy-washy, quick. If you got your plan, it's like a beacon. You have to believe in what you are doing, after all. That's so important! I hope this doesn't sound dumb, but have you had chance to assess why you are choosing to drop the two you are dropping? I ask, because I wonder if there is something constructive you can learn from this and take for yourself. For one thing, that could help you avoid a repeat of the same play out of events in the future, and for another, you can relish knowing what you've learned about yourself. Ie- did you learn that a major you may have considered is actually not what you hoped? Realize it is not for you? Is it a partiular type of instructor? Have you learned anything about your prefered work-load? Hang in there, Deneb! When you sort things out and get into classes you love, I bet anything things will go much better!!!! If you are still taking general requirements, well, some of those can be a drag. Some people do those at community college, and then transfer to university when it's time for a major. A community college can be a good place to boost your total gpa.
Is the distress center with either school? Well, regardless, why not just say you are making/made a big life decision, and feel uneasy and very stressed about your descision, then tell them the story. That seems reasonable. And if the distress center is with one of the schools, even better! I am certain they'd have PLENTY of experience about just this sort of topic, and all kinds of ideas and true stories to share.
I think such big descisions almost always cause lots of stress, especially if you have doubters around you. The doubters may sincerely mean well- but may be projecting their own fears onto you unfairly. They may be reacting in the best way they know how, to the best of their abilities.
> Right now I plan on doing my two classes and community college at the same time. Class starts Jan. 29th. If community college is structured I think I will do well.
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> I'm just so stressed right now!! I thought of calling the distress centre, but what would I say?
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> Deneb*
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