Posted by laima on January 12, 2007, at 8:39:17
In reply to Consequences - laima, posted by one woman cine on January 12, 2007, at 7:45:45
Well, as a veteran of a very dramatic college-era relationship with my own parents, I think Deneb would benefit from some independence rather than having her parents closely monitor and critcize her every move. Time to be ALLOWED to grow up- some parents just never want to let go of micromanaging their children. At least that how it was in my case, and my therapist said it was quite common. In my experience, it exasperated my mood and behavior. I did much better when they backed off a bit and I was trusted to act as an adult. Much better with my own part time job and bank account (rather than asking for an allowance-which always had strings attached), much better in the dorm than at home. If the rationale for taking away a person's bank account is that person therefore won't by pills, I think that's futile. A person who wants pills will still get them one way or another. Meanwhile, the indignity of mother snatching bank account away creates worsened morale, more drama, and a greater gulf.