Posted by alesta on January 9, 2007, at 13:00:00
In reply to Re: abusers abusers everywhere » alesta, posted by mair on January 9, 2007, at 12:45:40
> I saw your post on the admin site. Since I haven't been around here in a long time, I don't know if the anger is directed at anyone here or at someone or thing IRL. My dad was a pretty incredible narcissist, although I probably wouldn't have pegged him that way; my T attached that label to him. I know there are lots of behaviors that I associate with him and I cringe whenever I see any of them in myself. He had a way of making his needs very well known and of paramount importance. He was over the top, but the bad thing is that as an overreaction to his behavior, I tend to feel that I'm not entitled to ask for anything from others - even if I think my need is legitimate, I recoil at the thought of expressing that need.
> So who are you letting run over you and why?
what's up mair.:) glad to actually have a response! well let's see..i'd really rather not go into details on that...it's just too complicated and i'd rather not get into the who/why aspect if you don't mind (it's no one from here)...but, yes, i like you am learning to ask for things from others...instead of just looking inside myself for all the answers...which i did for so long. sorry for not divulging more..it just takes too much energy right now.
i feel for you, being the child of a narcissist. it's a really hard thing to deal with...