Posted by TexasChic on August 12, 2006, at 19:35:55
In reply to Re: I'm afraid of recovery and losing you all » TexasChic, posted by corafree on August 10, 2006, at 0:41:30
You know, you're talking about a subject I've been giving alot of thought to lately. What I seem to keep coming back to over and over again is that no one OWES me ANYTHING! I have the same grudges at people who I feel deserted me in my time of need. But the thing is, it was never THEIR problem, it was mine! How can I hold them responsible for my problems? I mean, these people aren't therapists, they don't know what to do to help a depressed person. So they back off to more familiar and safer territory. Its really quite understandable.
Of course, then you start thinking, "Well after all I did for them they couldn't stick by me???" But apparently it doesn't work that way. Its still a hard thing for me to wrap my head around, but I am aware that it is something I need to learn.
I hope this didn't come off as preachy to you or anything. Its just that I'm beginning to discover that expecting too much from people is the reason behind some of my biggest problems! So I thought I'd share. I hope it came out right.
-T
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