Posted by llrrrpp on July 4, 2006, at 19:33:12
In reply to I'm starting to feel better :-), posted by Deneb on July 4, 2006, at 17:38:13
> I think it's because Dr. Bob replied to me.
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> (((((((((((Bob)))))))))))))
>Well, I guess it's nice to get attention from people who are important to you :) I like it when Dr. Bob responds to me too. Probably for different reasons, but it's nice to know that someone's listening.
> I'm suddenly more alert. I don't want to crawl into bed anymore. I'm thinking of cleaning up the area outside the bedrooms. (I'd been "cleaning" my room for about 2 months now. A lot of my stuff is still out in this area.)
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> Maybe it's just a coincidence, Bob replying and me feeling better. Maybe this good feeling is temporary.
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> I bookmarked Bob's reply. I should make a scrapbook of all the replies Bob has given me. :-) Would that be creepy? Bordering on psychopath stalker creepy?
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> When I'm down, I imagine that Dr. Bob doesn't like me. I start thinking the worse. I need to remind myself of all the things Dr. Bob has written to me that oppose those thoughts.
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> Deneb*Well Deneb* these sound like some interesting little cognitive patterns you've been working on. Sounds like maybe you have given this symbolic Dr. Bob control over your feelings. You are at the mercy of another person, with whom you don't have a reliable, consistent relationship. Other people let us down, and for this reason, it's important to know how to make yourself feel better using your own powers. self-soothing. Very difficult thing to master, but I think that it's possible to make some real progress.
What happens when you feel bad again? If you can only rely on Dr. Bob, then you will be forced to confront Dr. Bob, because part of you holds him responsible for your suffering. And then maybe he'll respond, maybe he won't. And in the meanwhile you're still hurting. I don't want you to become dependent like this. It ends up hurting you so much more often than helping.
I kind of feel EE's frustrations too. I wonder if Deneb* has kind of let Dr. Bob become a symbol for online support. Hopefully the things that other posters (like me and EE) write you are helpful. Maybe they haven't sunk in yet. We can only hear things we're ready to hear. Maybe I say things that are largely irrelevant, or incomprehensible.
take care, I'm happy to hear that you got a little pep in your step :) Thanks for sending me hugs earlier. I appreciate your good advice, and it's nice to hear from a friend when I'm feeling icky :)
Hope you get to bed at a sensible hour tonight :)
-ll
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