Posted by cloudydaze on June 28, 2006, at 13:01:06
In reply to Re: Need support/help/ideas/whatever » cloudydaze, posted by TexasChic on June 27, 2006, at 19:13:33
> Well, lets see, you're stuck somewhere you don't want to be, with nothing but negative remarks thrown at you, and you feel trapped. That's why you're depressed and why you can't enjoy anything.
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> Are you seeing a therapist? That's really the most important thing you could do right now. A therapist can help you understand your feelings and give you advice. If you can't move out, you at least need someone to help you deal with your mom.You could probably find one at your school, or through a woman's center.
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> I've been in a situation where I lived with my mom and she only made negative comments too. I thought I was loosing my mind at one point. My therapist helped me get through that period, but more importantly helped me get the self esteem to move out.
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> I hope you'll see about getting one. If not for you, for your daughter. She is probably being effected by all this negativity too.
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> One thing that took me a long time to learn was just because she's your mom, doesn't mean you have to do what she says. You're an adult and you're responsible for your life, not her.
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> -T
>I've never been able to find a therapist that worked for me. I had one years ago that I really liked, but she got another job (or a promotion maybe) and stopped seeing patients. She was the ONLY therapist I've ever had that I felt actually cared and listened to me. Maybe it's time to search again.
I went to the women's center for awhile to deal with being sexually abused as a child. It didn't seem to help much. In fact, talking about it after so long made me feel worse...
I almost went back there after being sexually assulted by a stranger a few years ago...but then i figured that it would only bring me more heartache.
it's amazing what i can block out, actually. I think maybe that's why i remember very little of my life. Defense mechanism.
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