Posted by TexasChic on May 18, 2006, at 16:40:30
In reply to Re: Well finally. » TexasChic, posted by Larry Hoover on May 18, 2006, at 10:19:59
> Here's how a good manager handles this sort of interpersonal thing. It's called the hamburger method. You give a bun of praise, the meat of the criticism, and the bun of praise again. If necessary, the HR person adds some toppings (special praise), if the meat was choking the person being criticized.
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> Bitchygirl came out smiling, because the HR person won't end the interview until that's the case.That makes alot of sense!
> If I may be so bold, you cried from your expectations not being met. You keep expecting things that won't happen.
Yes, that's exactly it.
> Expectations are premeditated disappointments.
But how do you keep your mind from going there? I don't know how to stop thinking about what the outcome will be in a situation. I do recognize this as a problem of mine. I've realized before that I sometimes live in a fantasy world. Its definitely something I need to work on.
> I'm glad you're so open about all of this. I hope my comment does not hurt you. I'd like you to try and look at things differently. I'm sorry, if I misread the situation.
No, I understand what you're saying. I always know your posts will make me look deep inside myself and think really really hard. And because I know this is part of your personality, I recognize you're trying to help and not hurt. I do appreciate it. :-)
-T
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