Posted by TexasChic on May 18, 2006, at 16:24:33
In reply to Re: Well finally. » TexasChic, posted by ClearSkies on May 18, 2006, at 8:21:51
> I hope that your problems with BG are resolved. I identify so strongly with your experiences at work; my heart goes out to you. It seems like when I've given my "all" to a job, that my emotions have become hopelessly entangled in my efforts to do the best that I can.
I understand that completely. I've been trying to learn how to keep my work separate from my REAL life. Its a hard thing to do.
> It might not make a difference in how she (BG) behaves. When I went through a similar experience, the improved behaviour lasted a couple of weeks, and then degenerated back into what I'd known and loathed.
I have a feeling that's exactly what's going to happen. Other people have voiced that too. Plus, even though she was nice to me today, she talked bad about the other girl alot. She just doesn't have enough sense to shut up!
> So I just want to say that I'm impressed with what you've done. And to keep in mind that it's a reminder that this is probably not about you at all, but about BG and her problems.
Thank you. And yes, I've already been working out the psyhcology in my head of what must be wrong with her. She must feel extremely bad about herself.
On a more positive note, today I asked a couple of people if they want to get together for drinks after work sometime. They said, "Sure!" I don't know why I never thought of them before, I guess I just thought they wouldn't be interested. I also asked some of the other outsiders, and some of the guys that stayed pretty neutral throughout this whole situation, and they're all for it! At first I was was thinking, "it'll just be us and then they'll know what it feels like to be left out" (imagine evil laugh). But the other girl (victim) said, "Lets not reduce ourselves to their level". And I was like, oh my God! I can't believe my brain went in that direction without my even realizing it. I know good and well that's not the person I want to be. I felt like a complete idiot after she said that.
I really appreciate all your support throughout this. I realize its not all over yet, but I think I've jumped the biggest hurdle.