Posted by Larry Hoover on May 18, 2006, at 10:19:59
In reply to Well finally., posted by TexasChic on May 17, 2006, at 19:27:10
> They finally called bitchygirl to HR today. She was back in 20 minutes in a seemingly good mood.... For some reason the whole thing just made me cry all the way home.
For some reason? Do you not know what that reason is?
I think your HR staff person handled the situation beautifully. The whole intent of the HR person's job is to smoothe things out.
Here's how a good manager handles this sort of interpersonal thing. It's called the hamburger method. You give a bun of praise, the meat of the criticism, and the bun of praise again. If necessary, the HR person adds some toppings (special praise), if the meat was choking the person being criticized.
Bitchygirl came out smiling, because the HR person won't end the interview until that's the case.
If I may be so bold, you cried from your expectations not being met. You keep expecting things that won't happen.
Expectations are premeditated disappointments.
I'm glad you're so open about all of this. I hope my comment does not hurt you. I'd like you to try and look at things differently. I'm sorry, if I misread the situation.
Lar
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