Posted by special_k on April 6, 2006, at 23:36:11
In reply to Re: I wonder why Dr. Bob won't accept my scarf, posted by Alex Elliott on April 6, 2006, at 22:21:29
> It very much seems to me that Dr. Bob continues to engage about this (the scarf).
> > It almost seems like he wants to continue to engage with you about this. Wouldn't it have been simpler to take the gift say thank you and not make an issue about it? (Oh and don't forget to send a thank you note)
it might be simpler in the short term...
but it might be a lot more complicated in the long term (if he accepts a gift from one...re: engaging with the topic...
it is a tricky one.
something i really benefit from here... is being able to talk about what is on my mind honestly. shame is a big thing for me. shame around my thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. if i talk about what is on my mind and find that people don't judge me (and find that people jump in and say 'i've been thinking / feeling / doing similarly myself) then it normalises my experience and i feel a lot more normal and acceptable and understandable and a whole heap happier in myself.
people seem to benefit to being able to talk about transference issues / boundary issues etc over on the psychology board.
re: him... that is a hard one... doesn't quite belong over on psychology but imo similar issues... i commend him for trying to get people to engage with deneb about this (at least that is the way i take it). it isn't so much that he is trying to encourage it or anything, but imo it is nice that he isnt' trying to sweep it under the carpet / ignore it.
if he did that...
then deneb (and others who think / feel / behave similarly) might have a lot more shame etc going on...
i think it is useful.
just my 2c...
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