Posted by special_k on April 4, 2006, at 22:56:39
In reply to Re: Boundaries -- both personal and professional, posted by special_k on April 4, 2006, at 22:51:02
and the reason i think i get this...
is because i've ended up in relationships with people i had transference feelings for. and... ultimately they didn't work out. ultimately... i don't think they really can work out into anything healthy.
and in hindsight...
i kinda do think on them as someone taking advantage of me. of my transference feelings.
and sometimes what we think we want...
is not what is good for us
which is just to say
it is not what we actually do wantthough it can take a lot of time to figure it out...
and it is a long painful and incredibly confusing road...and i know that probably seems WAY different to what is going on here and what is going on for you...
but the point is that there was quite a road for things to end up where they ultimately ended up for me (where i was in a relationship with that person)
and that road is something of a slippery slope...and so much better
so much easier
so much better for all concerned in the long runif the boundaries are firm and at arms length
and to respect that deneb
because IMO
those boundaries are what you respect
and those boundaries are what are making you feel safe
and full of love
so enjoy it
but respect the boundariesand IMO
the boundaries show that he does love and respect us
because it can be only too easy to take advantage...
poster:special_k
thread:626334
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