Posted by Tabitha on January 21, 2006, at 11:08:53
In reply to agreeing w/ someone when they dis someone else?, posted by JenStar on January 20, 2006, at 17:11:01
Just try to accept their feelings without joining their judgement-- like "you seem really upset about it" or "I can understand why you'd be upset" or "that does sound pretty awful". Remember you're only getting part of the story anyway, so you can't really make a good judgement anyway. Then later when they're getting along with the person, "sounds like you've worked out your differences" or "you seem a lot less upset with him/her than you were last time we talked".
I find that joining somebody in their judgement only sets me up to feel frustrated later when they change their mind.
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