Posted by alexandra_k on July 23, 2005, at 18:54:54
In reply to Re: Drama triangle » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2005, at 4:59:37
> Someone (and the someone could include Dr. Bob) is the subject of an uncivil post, say without provocation.
Yeah. Though typically that someone genuinely believes they are the victim. They are the victim and so they are justified in being the perpetrator in attacking someone else...
>Any number of people on Babble will try to help that poster in different ways. Some of the ways involve being uncivil themselves (and becoming up for admin actions themselves).
So in attempting to rescue the victim they perpetrate against the perpetrator. And thus the original perpetrator who already felt victimised now comes to feel even more victimised - and the situation escalates...
>In addition, the target of the original uncivil post might respond uncivilly,
Confirming the perpetrators perception of the perpetrator being a victim
>and may also try to defend the posters who came to his/her defense.
To protect them. Perhaps by persecuting / being uncivil in the process.
And so the situation escalates.
Then along comes Bob / Dinah and out come the PBC's / blockings. Everyone gets to feel like the victim and turns against the 'arbitrary and capricious civility rules'.
Sigh.
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