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Re: Can't get past this HATRED! » margie24

Posted by JenStar on June 8, 2005, at 21:08:37

In reply to Can't get past this HATRED!, posted by margie24 on June 8, 2005, at 2:46:39

Margie,
I was just thinking. If she felt that she needed to mail you a list of "relationship rules," she must be having some serious issues getting along with you all, or at least THINKS she does. I know you said that your family is fun and gets together a lot, and that you tried to welcome her. But is it possible that she got a different vibe entirely, even mistakenly, and has erected her own defenses now in return?

It sounds like she is not happy and doesn't feel welcome.

About the wedding guests - I know that's a HUGE sore topic for most brides & their mother in laws! It's always an issue, even if they get along! It may be that they just had a certain budget, and if they are paying for it themselves, they have the right to pick their own guests. Certainly she could have told your mom to invite a few friends, but it's also possible that your brother could have pushed for that, if he really wanted it. Truthfully the bride's wedding is all about her and her family.

I'd really recommend trying to talk to her, but not now...after the wedding...and a good time after so she can enjoy her honeymoon.

The car and the ring - clearly your brother feels they can afford it, right? Or else he would not have got them?

Do you feel competitive with her b/c you're both teachers?

Do you think that it's possible to ever be friends with her?

JenStar


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