Posted by Deneb on June 1, 2005, at 18:30:48
In reply to Re: That's it, I've had enough *trigger* » Deneb, posted by rainbowbrite on June 1, 2005, at 16:56:14
> I dont think it is that no one believes you I think it is that people dont necessarily know what to do to help you.
Perhaps...it's just so frustrating...it's like I speak another langauge and no one understands me or can soothe me.
> have you tried saying to your pdoc "I need this when I am upset?" or "what is available for me when...?" Maybe think up some ideas that you know help you feel better and brainstorm with your pdoc about how to put them into practice when you are feeling desparate.
My p-doc just told me to pretend I was talking to her when I get upset. I don't know if seeing her has been productive for me...we never seem to have enough time to do much of anything during the appointments.
My family doc told me to go for a walk when I get upset...to punch a pillow, garden and scrapbook. She kept telling me that I shouldn't rely on astronomy or basketball?? (I don't even play basketball) because they involve groups of people and I cannot do those things on the spur of the moment to calm myself.
> The problem is that when it comes down to it we have to fight for ourselves. I learned pretty young that if you want something or NEED something emotionally YOU have to supply it yourself.
This is *very* hard for me to do. I don't think I've ever learned completely how to soothe and comfort myself. :-(
> Have you used crisis lines? Maybe that would be an approach. trying to 'show' someone or prove to someone how upset you are only hurts you in the end not them.Yes, sometimes...but my Mom is home all the time now...there is no privacy...she even came with me to my appointment today. So annoying.
> I know its hard, and I know you are opposed to this idea but would you consider hospital? Or day program? It could suprise you and be the best thing. I think I read somewhere that you live near a really good hospital. Maybe?Yes, there's the Royal Ottawa Hospital close-by...but I get the feeling it is for "severe" cases....I mean, they even have criminals there! It is under some construction right now...being expanded and renovated entirely by some private company or something...I pass by it on the bus.
Thanks Rain for the advice
jenny
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