Posted by Gabbix2 on December 4, 2004, at 16:20:16
In reply to Am I foolin' myself by being here?, posted by 64bowtie on December 4, 2004, at 1:11:00
> I'm not asking for "positive strokes" or "warm fuzzies". I suppose I have assumed that I was posting and sharing appropriately. Now, after a year of Babble, I'm not so sure.
>I think, Rod, that it's not a good idea to set oneself up as a role model, it's up for others to choose who they look up to, and whose path they wish to follow. I agree with what Tabitha said, in that everyone's path to wellness is different, and I add to that often people's idea of what wellness is will differ too.
If this were a board where people wanted to quit smoking, and you had "kicked the habit" it would be more clear cut.
I think you mean well, and you are excited to share what works for you as Dinah said, but in your excitement to share what you feel is important, it's equally important not to use someone's post as a stepping stone for your personal philosophies now matter how well meant, if that happened to me more than once or twice I'd be angered, or mildly annoyed.
This may looks petty, and perhaps it's just a matter of not being able to hear your voice, but I've noticed comments like this from you before, and have been put off by them:>> Is Babble a good forum to slate wellness? Or, should I go away with such a message? I must warn all that I have found freedom and happiness.
When you say you must *warn* people that you've found freedom and happiness it sounds to me as if you're assuming that the people here would rather stay unhappy, and that anyone who doesn't follow you're route is as you would say "a grumbling complainer"
You've acknowledged that your timing needs work, and I think that's still an issue. If someone feels they have had spiritual enlightenment and interrupts someone's conversation at a book club to start talking about it, it probably would appear rude, and maybe a bit strange, however the same experience offered among friends, or at personal growth seminar would come across completely differently. It's crucial because it can change your message entirely.
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