Posted by headachequeen on November 20, 2004, at 0:02:09
In reply to Re: May I join in?, posted by stresser on November 17, 2004, at 7:05:20
> Now that the thread got bumped to the social board, do we need to check the board or does it always get bumped? I still don't know how to figure this out, and I don't want to miss anything!!! Bridgey- Your parenting skills seem to be quite a lot like mine. It's like the cying wolf thing....my daughter is like that. We used to tell her the same thing you tell your son, and I thing so called "high strung" children are sometimes like that. Kat-as always, you are full of wonderful advice that I will take with me through the day, just like I did yesterday. I told my family we must have at least four hugs per day, AT LEAST, and this morning the kids didn't shrug me off when I went in for the hug. Sometimes they think they are too BIG, but that's a CHANG'IN in this house. Kudos to you. I love you. -L
Wow! I found everyone... I think...
still trying to get this mailer to send mail...
and brilliantly deleted the other mailer because it would not work for me...
so I have lost all my email addresses for people that I might just want to send emails to...however, on the topic of hugs...
may I state once again that the term hug does not always mean the traditional wrapping around of arms...
a quick touch on the arm as someone passes accompanied by a positive statement...
hey, that colour looks great on youan arm around the shoulders, with a really positive have I told you lately how much I love you?
and then you keep going...not a big issue just an affirmative touch...
and something said that makes it into the hug...you are working so hard with M's pdoc and regular doc to help her find a way around this eating/binging problem and to help her work with the topomax so that she can establish better self-esteem...
and frankly I do not see this thread as being at all social; I see it as part of our topomax thread because it helps us with part of that vital self-esteem part of the reason that so many of us are on topomax...
and you want to regain and retain a positive position in her life without making it a huge issue so these little hug moments are ways to establish you in her life...
start with the four and work up
and with everyone working on it, it has to grow and everyone has to grow with it...
psychological growth according to the psychiatrists who did this study and it was back when our children were little..
must have been a century or two ago...
so it is vital to us and to them....and frankly, L, ma chere amie, I love you just as much...
kat
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