Posted by jujube on September 28, 2004, at 10:45:09
In reply to Problems dealing with not working, posted by iris2 on September 25, 2004, at 22:27:43
Iris,
Noboby is without skills. Having skills is not necessarily tied to level of education. I had an employee who had two degrees who could not write a decent note or letter and couldn't grasp things without extensive explanation. You just have to find your niche. Working with people in a retail or office setting is not for everyone.
I read of a woman who found herself unemployed and she decided it was time to work for herself. She thought of the things she could do and starting listing them (things like preparing meals, walking dogs, gardening, babysitting, wordprocessing, painting, etc.). Then she made flyers and distributed them in her neighborhood. She started getting work, albeit slowly. But it sustained her and she was able to start to making a living.
Don't give up hope. You will work again.
Good luck to you, and take good care.
Tamara
> I have not been able to work for over two years now. Even then I worked a small part-time job because of my depression that hired people that have problems I had a severe bout with a bladder disease that caused me to have to quit. Not working has only added to my depression. Working seems like a pipe dream to me now.
> I have felt a little better in the past two months and thought that perhaps I should try to look for a job like dog walking or something like tht skill level. I am very anxious and have has trouble with office jobs in the past even though I have some knowledge and experience with them. Also I have had a lot of sales experience mostly n woman’s clothing but my social abilities are so bad now I cannot even consider this, I had problems even when I was feeling quite well dealing with authority figures in this type of environment. I know it sounds like I am making excuses but extreme anxiety, to be noticed by coworkers and crying every day after work and sometimes during will tell you some of the problems I am dealing with. I also got fired from two jobs because of my inability to remember things from day to day due to the anxiety and depression. I never used to have these problems at least not to any great extent.
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> I never finished college or trade school so essentially I am without skills.
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> Looking through the paper today has made me feel worthless and meaningless and hopeless. If I felt better and more confident I would try to go back to school and take a year or two year program that would provide me with a career. I even have one picked out. I wish I felt more confident about it all.
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> Has anyone had similar experiences? What can I do for a part time job that I can learn on the job?
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> I never in my life expected not to work for any length of time no matter how sick I became. I need the money but perhaps in my situation I need to feel a sense of accomplishment that a job gives me. It makes me feel like I am an important contributing human being.
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> I know there are a lot of us out there who are not able to work. How do you deal with it?
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> I am not much of a self-motivator so when I am not working I generally get nothing done in and around my home. Nor do I go out and do much. This had become partly because I have developed some social phobia and partly because I have an old habit of not allowing myself to have fun if I did not accomplish things (like cleaning) that I know I should have done.
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> Yes I am rambling on and on. The whole topic had me crying and generally upset the whole afternoon.
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> How do other people deal with this?
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> I would more than appreciate a response. Perhaps someone has some ideas or their personal stories might help me. Either way thanks for listening,
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> irene
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