Posted by gardenergirl on May 8, 2004, at 11:05:51
In reply to What do friends do?, posted by fallsfall on May 3, 2004, at 15:14:50
I'm even later than Daisy. There are some great ideas and posts here. I think this is a very good question, and it may be even deeper than it initally appears.
In thinking about my friends, I realize I have a variety of "friend" categories. Some are long term, talk about anything friends. These are the kind who, even if you haven't talked or had a chance to get together in a long while, you are able to pick it right back up. I associate this with a certain level of intimacy (not sexual, just closeness and openness) that comes from sharing the whole range of stuff together. Laughing, crying, being serious, being silly, just being. I only have a couple of friends like this.
Another friend category might be the friends I have now who I would call "current" friends. This is the group I hang out with the most right now. It usually has to do with something we all have/had in common. Right now, that is school. This type of friend may not last beyond what you have in common. Geography can play a role here, too.
Then there is the "friend" with whom you usually just do specific things with. For example your golfing buddy (don't golf, just can't think of my own example at the moment). I usually am much less open with this type, but I do enjoy the activity.
What do I do with friends? Like others, it usually invovles food...either going out to eat or eating in at one of our homes. Sometimes it's just having a glass of wine on the front porch (my next door neighbor is an old friend from undergrad days.) Sometimes I go with "the girls" to have lunch downtown and then catch a weekend matinee performance of a local theater group. Sometimes we go to "GameWorks" an arcade and play Indy and Daytona racing until I am purple from laughing so hard. ( I found I do much better if I go AROUND the other cars rather than THROUGH them. You wouldn't believe how long it took me to figure that out.) Sometimes we go to local festivals or events downtown. But it almost always involves food, as I love to cook, love to eat, and love to go out to eat. Fortunately, we have a lot of choices here.
My favorite friend times, though, have been just hanging out and talking...about anything. I'm a talker (you might have guessed), and I love to giggle with the group about stuff. Also, this sounds so hokey, but my neighbor and I just hang out and talk over the fence. Sometimes we go into one or the others' yard to look at and talk about our gardens, but often it's just talk about anything. So we're Betty and Wilma. It's really nice. If only we could find a way to do this in the winter...
Okay, done rambling. Waiting to post to this certainly has not helped with being concise. Oh well.
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