Posted by EmmyS on March 17, 2004, at 9:50:56
In reply to Re: Another day, another fifty cents or so, posted by Dinah on March 17, 2004, at 9:32:52
When I have trouble working with a particular person, it's usually for one of 3 reasons:
1) there is something about that person which is like me, which I dislike about me
2) there is something about that person which I wish I could be more like
3) transference....he reminds me of my bad dad
But, that's just me.
Regardless...this is what I do to ease the situation. I just be nice to them...do little nice things. Kind things. Ask about their kids, their weekend. Bring brownies. Even if that the last thing I WANT to do...I do it. I just keep doing nice things. It changes the balance. Throws the whole relationship out of whack. He/she hasn't a clue what to do. It can give a whole new footing to the relationship. Or maybe you just feel good about yourself, and get to eat brownies too.
Emmy
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